Little advice please :)

[Linzy]

Hi ladies'

Just wanted some advice on how to tackle baby names. I happen to like unusual names ( I named my first son Jett) at the moment if it's a boy I want to name him Foxx, Phoenix, Drake, Neo, or Colt, if it's a girl I'm thinking Matilda, Scarlett, Ebony, or Aurora. My problem is my new mother in law and my husband to be don't like unusual names (as my mother in law is Italian she wants an Italian family name like Leonardo or Costatina). I have had many a discussion with my mother in law on this issue, she thinks of the child being picked on in school. My argument is that kids get picked on for more things than names I was bullied for being skinny, having a British accent, poor parents and an old car.

Do I go with my new hormonal *****ier side and think 'well I've carried this child for 9 months so I'm going to name it what I want?' or do I be a doormat and succumb to family pressure? I just really don't like old boring names, some of those can be picked on too, Richard is shortened to ... well you know. Nobody made much of a fuss when we first heard Tiger Woods or Forrest Whitaker...

I've actually told my husband to be not to mention any of the names I'm thinking of in front of family anymore because I can't stand seeing the smirks and eye rolls on their faces. Why can't they just be happy that I have something to name at all, as it is their son's first child? Sorry I'm a little hormonal at the moment! Jett's grandparents love the unusual name, they think it suits him! (Jett has a different father to this baby) Anybody else have issues like this with family, if so how did you tackle it?

Any advice please

[mrsmac]

A boy in my class comes form an Italian family and his mum didn't like any of those really Italian names so they named him Maximus which is Italian but more unusual and interesting so what about an old style Roman name to please both of you??

[Linzy]

I was just thinking about that very name this afternoon! I might have a google tonight and see if I can find something like that, she really wants a member of the family though, see what I can find Cheers for replying so quick

[willow5]

I think some of the old Italian names might be quite unique, MIL might have to settle for an Italian name you like if there isn't a family name you're keen on, sounds like a fair comment.

Personally I don't think I could name my baby something that I didn't like, good luck

[Amaunet]

IMO its none of your MiL's business and you don't need to please her - but your DH is entitled to some input - so if he is conservative with names I think you may need to compromise in some way.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

I agree its your child you should name the baby what YOU and your partner want. And i have to say i love the names Scarlett and Foxx

[Jas]

I am one for trhinking its the role of the parents tp pick the names no one else!!

[Linzy]

Thanks for all the comments guys Hubby to be does happen to like Neo and thats his only input so far lol he's still freaking out a little with the whole baby business although he did buy some baby Essendon socks the other day and a KISS onesie!

He's warming to Matilda too which I think is beautiful, the baby will have his Italian last name at least :/ See how I go in the next few weeks with Italian names, altho it is hard when you keep thinking back to the names you really love lol!

[mummato1]

Its for that reason I refused to talk about baby names with anyone while I was pregnant!! I would just say we have a few in mind but we would be leaving it as a surprise for everyone.. if they pressed it I would just change the subject! Its totally your decision as the parents..

There are some pretty cool Italian names, if you do a google search a lot of the baby name sites have an Italian category.. could be worth a look.

[Linzy]

I have had a bit of a google and looked at some of the Italian ones in the last few minutes, nothings popping out at me yet .. and jeez alot end in 'o'!

[canadianmummy]

I agree with the others here, it's not one's choice on the bubs name but yours and the bubs daddy. But from the point of view that she will be in your life forever, what about an Italian family name as a middle name as a compromise?

[Linzy]

Thats what hubby to be suggested, didn't go down to well we just got glares. :/ It's interesting how people can change when there is a baby involved!

[feeb]

What about Leo rather than leonardo.

Sybella


Personally I think its you and DH choice of name MIL has had her turn and picked what she wanted!

[Linzy]

Hubby to be already has a cousin called Leonard, I didn't want to use my family names as they are Phyliss and Norman..not my cup of tea! She did have her turn and named my hubby to be James...not really an Italian name..or a family one..oh well we are keeping our suggestions to ourselves now

[veebee2]

I agree with Feeb. MIL chose names for her own children, she should stay out of it.

Good luck with names though. Me and DH argued for ages...til week 38 actually!

[Linzy]

Thanks for all the comments girls, onlyjoined 2day and you've all been so friendly! I just wanted to get that off my chest as it's been irking me for a few weeks! Once again, thanks for the comments and inputs I will think about everything that was said Might have to pull a name out of a hat in the end hehe

[~clover~]

I think its nice to have some meaning like that behind the name, but I do not agree with you choosing a name to keep MIL happy!
I do think the idea of an Italian name you like could be nice.
I didn't use names that meant something here, my only plan was a name people have heard, but aren't too common, & I wanted 'cool' names & nick names.
I sometimes wish I'd searched more & found nice Gaelic names or something (My fam is Irish). I can't wait for SIL & my bro to have a bub...hanging to go through Maori(SIL) names! They are so beautiful!!

[Linzy]

I have Swedish and British background, some of the Nordic names are nice but a little out there (like Thor and Freya) lol dammit!