Is this a normal part of pregnancy?

[Emma1979]

wasn't sure where to post this, i don't remember feeling like this when pregnant with my first....

i just have no motivation, feel so tired, can't be bothered really doing anything and just want to mope around on the couch.... i look at my little girl and feel so sorry for her as i can hardly be bothered playing with her and have had the tv on Nick Junior so much lately.... nothing feels enjoyable anymore and everything is an effort.... i don't have any reason to feel this way which makes me feel all the more guilty.... we don't have any stresses at the moment and are in such a good position, i would be scared to tell anyone i'm feeling so down as i know they would think i am one of the luckiest people in the world, but for some reason i still feel so blaaaaah. i'm having a great pregnancy and should have nothing to complain about.

i just feel so guilty and think my daughter deserves more from me than what she is getting at the moment, but i can't muster up the motivation to be a better mum... i just want to lay in bed and disappear into a good book... i feel so selfish.

is this a normal part of being a hormonal pregnant woman, i honestly don't remember it last time. i feel like such a failure. i recently gave up my part time job recently which i wasn't enjoying to be a full time SAHM, not sure if this is having an impact.

any thoughts welcome i know this is a bit scattered.

[~clover~]

I went through that with all mine. I had severe ms with the girls & DD1 was pretty much raised by nick jr for months. I felt so guilty too.
You'll start to feel better soon

[HollyC]

I'm feeling a bit the same. The tv is on far too much and I'm not really getting the housework done. I'm just a bit blah.

I'm trying to at least get out of the house and I'm hoping to check out some activities that are on at the local library. That should keep DD entertained.

[Mad Scientist]

Are you depressed at all or do you just lack motivation? I know that with my second pregnancy, I didn't have the boundless energy that I seemed to have first time around. I was so tired all the time and couldn't move properly and just didn't have the energy required to take care of a toddler to the point of being an entertainment machine 24/7. What you typed sounds exactly how I felt. I just wanted to lay down!!! I honestly think it was because I had a toddler to chase after and look after and no time to look after myself or nest or anything like that. Also, I knew what I was in for, so the crazy anticipation of the first time around is dulled a tiny bit by the realism that we now know after having raised a newborn to a toddler already. I think, as long as you aren't depressed for any reason, that what you are feeling is normal for a second pregnancy for some people (me hahaha). Not sure what other people's experiences have been like. The good news is, having two kids is fantastic and worth all the tough pregnancy and newborn phase. I love it! Good luck hun. Hang in there ;-)

[MantaRay]

I remember being a lot like that with my second pg. I think you are so much more tired the second time, and you get less rest so it's definitely harder. Don't be too hard on yourself, your DD will be fine and won't even remember when mummy couldn't get off the couch.

[chickenlittle]

I was so tired and lifeless with second preg too... mentally OK but physically blah... then strangely enough with third preg I've been full of energy and really well almost the whole time... not now that I'm 36 weeks tho! I think hormones have a lot to answer for, more so than how much you have to run around after a little one, because in my case it was just completely illogical.

Blame the hormones. And if you feel like you're a bit depressed rather than just tired and over it, then get it checked out with the doc or OB.

Hugs.

[Shades]

Some of the things mentioned here make me wonder about antenatal depression - maybe it's worth a google?

[Laranna]

Emma, I've been feeling the same way lately so you're not alone hun For us, it hasn't helped that DS & I have had the flu, he got over it in a week and now two weeks later I am still getting over it. We've been couped up in the house being so bored!

So no advice, but just wanted to offer you sympathy hugs. We can sit on the couch together

[Linzy]

Some of the things mentioned here make me wonder about antenatal depression - maybe it's worth a google?

I agree, some of the phrases and thoughts you have used or are feeling sound more like depression. I have had this on and off for ten years. This second pregnancy I am struggling with it a little as I can't go back on my anti depressants due to not enough research on fetal damage. One thing that works for me is getting out of the house, maybe a nice walk with the little one, visiting a friend for a cuppa, getting into a new hobbie like um scrapbooking or cross stitch? Anything to get your mind of feeling guilty and depressed.

I've been working alot more (now that my m/s has calmed down) as being in the house tends to make it worse as you can start associating the house with negative thoughts creating a vicious circle. I'm about to look into swimming classes for pregnant women to get me out there enjoying things, and being more social which also helps take your mind off things

I hope you feel a little better soon! And I'm sure it will pass once your hormones balance out, if not I'd definetly head of to the docs and have a chat about how your feeling. *huggies*

[HollyC]

I think it is normal to feel tired and mopey during pregnancy. I think I probably did the first time, but I was at work and that made a big difference. Being home with a toddler means that you don't have to shower and get dressed, sometimes you just mope around in your pjs. And rather than taking a break when you are tired you do something easy like put the kids in front of the tv.

First pregnancy I let a lot slide. I'm not sure what DH ate or where he found clean clothes, I was asleep or lying on the couch. Now I'm trying to still do everything, but I can't and I feel bad that DD is the one who suffers.

I took DD to the library this morning and out for lunch and it felt really nice to do something for her.

[Emma1979]

thanks for your replies i am glad i am not alone feeling like this...

its funny, today we had quite a good day, we were up and dressed and out of the house and at mothers group, and i had some delicious home made pizza while the kids played etc, then home and we both had a sleep in my bed in the afternoon then a bit of tele after that.... yeah maybe i do have to get out and about more, its funny i was just thinking today i would take dd to the library and read her some books etc one morning, i am sure she would love it.

dd had tonsillitis, then croup, then i got tonsillitis then ear infections so we have both been sick and couped up in the house, maybe i was expecting too much as i had been sick for a good two weeks and perhaps just needed to give myself some downtime to get over it. dd has become ultra clingy which is also meaning i get zero alone time, where as in the past i would often get a day to myself, or an evening if she stayed at my parents place... i suppose its a multitude of things affecting me.

thanks again for your replies.