Telling the Folks

**Asparagus and Lemons** · November 5th, 2009, 10:19 AM

Well Dh and I have decided to tell our parents this weekend that we are expecting, it will come as a shock to them all, but this is all we are sure on.
I think dh's parents are going to tell us we should wait till we are 50 or so,
And my parents will be thrilled because they thought we'd never have kids, but I feel bad as I am helping start up the family business and feel like I have failed them.
SO, how do we tell them without actually having to to say it straight up? When we got engaged we had our heads down and just mumbled it to them because we are both so scared and shy.
We want to do something a bit inventive, but then they may not take it well. So, we are not sure how to say it, or bring it into discussion.
Any ideas would be GREATLY appreciated!

**~clover~** · November 5th, 2009, 10:23 AM

Not sure, I just blurted it out every time & waited for the crap to come...
I got my first congrats from my mum with DS.

**PumpkinZulu** · November 5th, 2009, 10:23 AM

When DF and I told our parents, I was 7 weeks too. We got both our mothers these really nice knitted shawls and knitting needles and said they better get used to them because they were going to be grannies! Lol it was a great way to tell them, although they were a little peeved, as my mother is 48 and DF's is 50, but they loved the way we did it none-the-less. Good luck telling them, I'm sure you'll think of a brilliant way

**helle** · November 5th, 2009, 10:31 AM

Both our Mum's are only 43 XDD
We just told 'em straight out... they were both thrilled, and if they didn't like it well that's just too bad, so sad!

**Muppity** · November 5th, 2009, 10:34 AM

Maybe ask them what they want to be called when they become grandparents.

**helle** · November 5th, 2009, 10:35 AM

:yeahthat:

**~clover~** · November 5th, 2009, 10:45 AM

Both our Mum's are only 43 XDD
We just told 'em straight out... they were both thrilled, and if they didn't like it well that's just too bad, so sad!

Both our mothers became nan's at only 36

**Mrs McAwesome** · November 5th, 2009, 10:52 AM

Just blurt it out. We told our family at 7.5 weeks, my mum now drives me bonkers and DH mother hasn't mentioned it since... But I definately like the idea of asking them what they want to be called when they are grandparents.

**Asparagus and Lemons** · November 5th, 2009, 11:37 AM

Thanks girls, such great ideas,
Muppity - What a great idea! I think I might do that one!
Pumpkin - That is hillarious!! Love that idea!
My parents are 44 + 43 and dh's parents are in there 50's, I think its a good age for grandkids.. even if they dont think so!

**mzcatieboo** · November 5th, 2009, 11:42 AM

my mum was 38 when i told her i was pregnant with declan and she wasnt impressed & my dad was 50 he didnt really say to much but got used to the idea alot faster then my mum.. Im dads only daughter so i felt like i failed him at first but then he told me he was happy for me and would stand by me. & he loves his grandson & this time i rang my mum and told her because she knew we had been trying and she was all excited

as for dad. he over the moon..

i was more scared telling them the first time. mum i just came out and said it. as for dad i broke down crying and shaking and he knew straight away, told me i should of used a condom and that was the end of it.

my mother in law on the other hand. the first time she wasn't real impressed. as i was 16 & DH was nearly 20 when we told her. but i didnt real care for what she had to say . she seemed a lil excited this time.. everyone did actually :/

its weird how everyone responds.

i hope your parents and inlaws take the news well

**CharlieBrownGirl** · November 5th, 2009, 11:50 AM

How exciting Poopie...
All the best on the weekend.

That's a good idea about asking what they'll liked to be called. Unfortunately for us, the parents are already name cause of the fur babies.

PumpkinZ, I love your knitting needle idea

**Tiff+2** · November 5th, 2009, 01:03 PM

I know how you feel Poopie! My family is the ones who think no kids are better than having kids and no matter how old your are you are never old enough! When I told my mum with DD she said 'How far gone are you?!' I was so upset, I didn't tell my fam we were trying with her as I didn't want to hear the constant lectures about it! This time I made sure the moment DD was born I was telling EVERYONE what sort of a gap we were wanting so they weren't so shocked. (I wont even go into my dad's reactions with DD, it was so bad this time I decided to do it by email!)

I VERY much doubt this wont be the same for you, I have the worlds most unsupportive family, even though I love them to bits as they do me and they now couldn't imagine life without their greaddaughter.

I'd be sure to make a big fuss about how excited you are and how much it all means to you. Try to be confident so they know just how you feel about it all. I don't like using the words "I'm preg" when telling family, so with the first I put it something like, "we are so happy to be starting a family of our own"

I wish you all the very best. Even if they are a little hessitant, they will be happy, everyone loves to have a baby in the fam, even the boys!!!

Take care

**~TT40~** · November 5th, 2009, 01:10 PM

Good luck with it!!
Like Pish said, just say it proudly and strong and how happy you are. Even if they aren't excited straight away it will grow on them =)
My mum always tells me the story about when she told her mum she was pg with me, it was a month or so after their wedding and all grandma did was nod and go 'thats nice dear'. the next day after they left they got a phone call from grandma over the moon and crying she was so happy for my parents. It was only because she had had a chance to look at the calander and saw that yes, i was concieved after the wedding that she was ok with it =)
but if you and your husband are happy and it is what you want then thats all that really matters.
good luck!! and congrats!!!!

**CharlieBrownGirl** · November 5th, 2009, 01:19 PM

'thats nice dear'.

LOL! My Mum says "that's nice dear"

I worked out that my MIL was conceived prior to the grandparents wedding. Nan was a rebel.

**Asparagus and Lemons** · November 5th, 2009, 01:51 PM

Pish -they are great words to say, im not sure i'd be able to blurt it out and say "im pregnant" so thats a great way around it!

mzcatieboo - oh that would suck, such a negative response the first time round. Glad they are happier with the second one

Thanks for all your great responses!! Im feeling a little less scared having a bit of an idea of what we will say now

When we told dhs sister the other day, we were really excited and she just guessed so we didnt end up saying much until she asked lots of questions. Im hoping this excitment hangs around when we tell the folks.