Disregarding for a minute what hubby says, and the poor support you've had so far, what do YOU want? If you really want a VBAC, then there's some work to be done getting your support team in order. If you want a c/s again, that's ok too... but think about it hard as you don't want to feel cheated after the event or like you were pushed into a c/s you didn't want.
If you do really want a VBAC, I would to urge you to get in contact with the hospital, or consider another if it's possible? You need to get hubby on board too. Point him towards some of the BB VBAC articles for a start
Does the hossy have a VBAC clinic? The public hossy I went to had one, where the midwives specialise in supporting VBAC. I wouldn't wait until your 34 week appt to discuss. By then it will be very late if you find that you're not happy with what they will offer. If your 34 week appt is anything like mine, it'll be a midwife who doesn't even work on the labour ward, going through the motions of 'this is where to park, this is when to call, these are the rules regarding visitors, this is what to bring, etc, ok thanks for coming'. When it came to actually answering any of my questions about the birth, the care bub and I would receive, etc, it was useless. My appointment with her, even though we discussed a number of things and I asked her to follow up on an issue that was important to me, had absolutely NO bearing on my birth experience. When I arrived for the c/section, no-one knew anything about what had been agreed, nothing was noted in my file, and I had to have the same conversations & arguments with the midwife I ended up with on the day. So my point (getting there) is, if you're going to stick with that hospital, it would be worthwhile pushing for an appointment with someone (preferrably senior), and getting them to note anything you discuss and agree to IN YOUR FILE. I don't know if you can even do this in a public hospital, but no harm in trying. Ask for someone who is a VBAC advocate, or someone who you can especially discuss VBAC birth choices with.
Also, I'm pretty sure you can refuse continuous monitoring and ask for intermittant monitoring, can't you? You can also stay at home as long as you can manage to avoid their policies and clock watching as much as possible.
I'm sure that some mummas who have been there done that will be in with some great advice very soon. Goodluck xx


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however my labour progressed & I got my VBAC.
They might be doctors, but that doesn't necessarily make them knowledgable on VBACs!


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