Hi all,

My MIL is staying with us at the moment and the other night she said to me that she thought that BLS was cruel and she feels sorry for my DD that she will have to go through all that frustration. She said that DD needs something in her to fill her up and then she would sleep better (for the last few nights she's been going to bed at 7pm and going right through to 6am, although she does typically only sleep about 40 mins at a time during the day, which I'm fine with) and would be better tempered (she's generally a happy little soul who just cries when she needs something and doesn't like getting to sleep much).

MIL is generally a pleaser and rarely speaks honestly so she must've felt really strongly to speak up and I was a bit taken aback. She'd also made comments earlier in the day about whether I was sure my milk was enough because DD had been fussing while she fed as she was trying to do a poo. I really struggled with BF to begin with so really don't appreciate those type of comments, so once she started attacking my choices to do BLS I ended up getting very upset and really bit back. I asked her what reasoning she had and she couldn't give any. I also explained that I don't want to fill her tummy up with bulky stuff when BM is the best nutrition for her now. My DH stuck up for what we're planning to do but also sat on the fence a bit to keep his mum happy.

Afterwards DH said to me that it's better to just smile and nod, and that I'm bound to get questions as we're doing something that's off the conventional path. We're only offering hard veggies/fruit once every 2-3 days at the moment, but I'm loathed to do it while she's still here and I still feel a bit angry and upset. I feel confident in my decisions, and the reasoning behind them but I'm also dreading any more conversations like this and don't know if it's better to just smile and nod or to explain why.

I'm sure some of you will have faced similar situations already and just wondered how you handle them.