wont resettle for me :(

[Olive]

DD 16 months has suddenly decided that daddy is better well better for resettling im sure its due to the fact that she knows i may give in a give boob ( i dont).
im worried as the past few days shes been waking from her day sleep after about 35 mins and im getting DH to resettle, i dont bother as ive tried in the past without success, but hes back at work in a week and im worried she'll be doing the same and i wont be able to resettle.
were also working on eliminating the early morning feed (if she wakes prior to 4am i resettle, after 4am i feed) i resettled yesterday morning (well several times) as DH was out for the night, and he resettled this morning as we figured him resettling may get her sleeping through without the feed.
BUT im concerned that this reliance on DH resettling may come back to bite me next week when he;s back at work!, so should we continue and hope like hell that a week of DH resettling when she wakes, both day and night, results in her sleeping better because mum aint going to offer the boob or will it all backfire!!??

[Ginger]

i would keep getting dh to re-settle while he's available. i think just do whatever works, and she'll just have to deal with it when he can't do it anymore iykwim?
maybe it might actually work to help her to sleep longer? idk, but i'd just keep doing what works for now and worry about it later.

mind you, i'm probably not the best person to listen to seeing as i haven't actually slept through the night in 2.5 years LOL

[shellbell3]

I'd still get your Dh to settle, who knows she may catch on for you! What does he actually do when he resettles? Maybe he holds her a certain way? Sings? All the little things he does maybe try and follow?

[onthefly]

If that's what's working now just go for it. You may as well make the most of it while you can

[Jennifer13]

hun, glad you have something that's working for the moment. I'd go with the flow. If she settles quickly for DH, maybe if he's only finding himself disturbed once or twice he'd be happy to continue? I'd make sure you tell him what a wonderful job he's doing, as you snuggle back down into the doona.

[Olive]

well sleep has turned to pot again she was up (as were we) for almost 3 hours on and off last night, its just a phase, its just a phase, its just a phase.................................. maybe if i repeat it enough it will end