thread: Alleviate my worry!!

  1. #1
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    Apr 2007
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    Alleviate my worry!!

    Ok.. I'd like your help to stop me freaking out. I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant (and a bit) and most of my symptoms stopped at 8wks. This was ok, coz the same thing happened with ds, but at 10wks.

    So now, even my tiredness has lifted. If I didn't know any better, I wouldn't know I am pregnant. We've started to tell people, but when we do, I feel like I'm lying.

    I have my first midwife appt on Wednesday coming (5days) and we'll get to hear the heartbeat, but we're telling a lot of people tonight at dinner...

    Is there something I can do NOW to alleviate my worries? I don't want to tell people but get to the hospital wednesday, or the scan the following Tuesday and hear "I'm sorry...."

    I have a stethoscope, can I hear anything with that?

    This is all just probably worry over nothing and is (possibly) more torment than a 2ww...

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    i felt the same when I was pregnant with DD2...would peeing on a stick just so see the lines make you feel any better?
    sorry i dont have more helpful advice

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    Sep 2009
    Melbourne
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    Big hugs. It is disconcerting when you loose the symptoms. I lost mine at 10 weeks and I hadn't felt so normal in weeks. They came back again in week 11.

    The most reassuring that I can do it have a scan and hold my breath until I hear the heart beat. I know that doesn't help too much because you have to wait a few days, unless of course you can bring the appointment forward or see your GP and get a referral for a scan elsewhere.

    I don't know much a POAS at this point. I thought the HCG levels start to drop at some point and I thought it was at the end of the first tri (I could also be wrong on this one). Althought perhaps it would still show up and it probably wouldn't be gone completely at this point.

    I know what it's like to worry about all things along the way. Hopefully all is good for you and you've lost the terrible morning sickness business early.

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    Oh Scone I hope you are ok.
    I know how you feel although im still getting stabbing pains.
    Hope all is well

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    Jan 2006
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    Scone honey, I can't offer anything concrete to alleviate your concerns, but I can let you know that what you are going through is normal. Motherhood (impending or otherwise) is a worry. I'm not saying this to belittle how you feel, but to remind you of what you already know - the minute you start even thinking about seriously trying to have a baby its like having your heart walk around outside your body. You know from having Jensen that the worry doesn't stop when they are born. And I bet it doesn't even stop when they grow up - every weekend, parents pray their kids won't end up in a fatal car crash, I bet every day there are parents around Australia sending their 25-year-old children off on flights to London worrying about whether they will be ok, or mums who worry about whether their daughter will cope with the divorce she is going through, or dads who worry whether their son (who has just been retrenched) will be able to pay his mortgage.

    This is part of life - this worry for those we love. Feel it and experience it - you can't fight it or make it go away. But remember - "Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother".

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    Jan 2006
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    Sorry youre feeling this way. But if its any concelation, ive never felt any symptoms with all 3 of my pregnancies. Slight tiredness but ive always been tired since having kids anyway! I had a scan yesterday and to be honest, had there not been a wriggling baby on the screen, i wouldnt believe im pregnant. Im sure everything is just fine hun. Hang in there.

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jun 2008
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    Do you have a public hospital with an early pregnancy centre in Brisbane? If so, it may be possible to go in for a scan to reassure yourself. A stethoscope won't pick anything up until about 28 weeks and even then it may not.