we all have family that get to us! some more then others, this last month ive promised to not hold in what gets to me, but since telling her directly has no effect, im going to use here to do it! (may add as time gose on.. i appologies now in advance!)
you can share the bits you need to get out about your rellos to, after all bottling it up isnt any good!
ok, we have never had the best relationship, i thought i was doing realy well and had set her straight, obviously not! she has told me her moods and constant shutting out and behaviour is due to depression, i dont hold that against her, but the fact she has been saying repeditivly that she will get help and stop taking it out on me and the kids ive had enough of it!
she constantly makes plans then bails, promises the kids then breaks them, leaving me to pick up the pices.
she has this whole "poor me" attitude towards everything, she complains if you dont ask for her help, then complains when you do. she can bail out with less then a hours notice (usualy leaving me less then a hour to re-organise kids and get transport if its a appointment) sends a text implying something in particular, then gets all defensive and angry about it when you say what she is implying. if i ever dare set her straight or stand my ground she starts on about something else, then tries the "im sorry lets just forget about it"
she complained that we never spend time together, then put me off for 4 weeks to go out window shopping together, saying she had no money, yet in that time she got a new tattoo witch due to the size, would have cost over $300.. she finaly made another day, witch i had to postpone as i found a playgroup for ds2 and dd to try out, (witch is important for them) and it was the end of the world!
she has told me that she is not coping with her depression and is going to get help, i told her thats great and i understand. the constant texts, messages on facebook, it is doing my head in! some of them are so nasty and manipulative, then the next day she carrys on as normal like nothing ever happened. ive stoped feeding into it, im not replying anymore, ive told her once she gets the help she needs, and has sorted most of her problems out, then we can go back to how things were wen she moved down here, but untill then, i cant have her dillemas stressing me out, its not good for me, and its not good for the kids. its great she has admited there is a isue, but she had been "playing" this card for a good 12 months now, and it is getting way to much! she knows were she stands, i love her, but cant cope with her issues on top of my own, and once she sorts her problems out, everything will be great again, untill then im not a councilor, and shouldnt have to sort her head out for her.
sorry if anyone takes offence.
thats my bit over! WAAAY longer then i thought, but hey its out n feels bit better... i think..!
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family that "grind your gears"
the kids and you don't need that, I hope she can get the help she needs
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