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thread: Life after baby

  1. #1

    Dec 2005
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    Unhappy Life after baby

    Ive just realised that in less then a month my baby boy is 3


    NO Im not clucky...quiet happy to not have anymore babies now...its taken a long time to acknoledge the fact (and alot of tears) but im comfortable with knowing it.

    Still...a part of me is crying that my children are growing...turning into head strong people and are no longer little people who need a cuddle when they had owies, who fall asleep in my arm's and no longer love having twinkle twinkle little star sung ot them.

    Soon the night time wander's wont be hopping into my side of the bed for midnight cuddles....I wont be able to kiss them in public.....let alone carry them.

    Ive been a mum to babies so long, im kind of affraid of the next phrase.

    im a sad sack I know

  2. #2
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    Mar 2007
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    Aw, Maz gosh I think about how fast my baby girl is growing up (she's nearly 2) and we are having more babies on the way yet even I still get sad when I think how fast it goes they are little such a short time out of their whole life and I wonder how I'll feel when we've stopped having babies one day.

    Just hugs!

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Jul 2007
    Glenroy
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    I must admit I had a bit of a tear when I realised there were no more babies in our house. I seriously re-evaluated having another one, but much as I would love another baby I don't think I want/could handle more children.
    My oldest starts school next year and I really don't know the little one and I will go for the first while at least. I mean, we'll be fine, but he's going to feel like he's lost a limb and for my part it's going to be strange not having little miss here for at least half of every day
    I've taken the first term off study to help us through the transition and so that I can be more available

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    Aug 2010
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    if your a sad sack, im a even bigger one!! i got teary reading that, my eldest starts school next year, i will still have 2 at home, and a 3rd (at home) in march, but still jerked a tear!! i think as they all grow you will experience lots of momentslike this! think thats the whole deal with being mum, they grow befor your eyes! (even if we dont want them to!

  5. #5
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    Apr 2007
    SE QLD
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    I dread the day I ask for a kiss or cuddle from DS and he says no and means it


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    Sep 2009
    Bunbury WA
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    i have only just ahd a bub but we know he is our last little blessing and i am having trouble dealing with that. i am the same, i dont want any more children but i dread the day where all my babies have grown up.i have spent my whole adult life having babies ( i got pregnant the week after my 18th birthday lol) and i am now at a point where i will be doing something different and that makes me kinda uncomfortable... all these feelings and bub is only 2 weeks old... how do you think i will be when he turns 3 ROFL

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    Aug 2009
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    Maz, you make me feel normal. I cried on DD's first birthday because it hit me how fast the year had gone. I am going to be a wreck when she goes to school and such.

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    Jan 2008
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    *hugs* i know how you feely, my eldest is four and off to kinder next year...then my youngest will be 2 next year arrgghhh!!!!

    But in the meantime im trying my best to get my stuff together before they r all at school so i have a job lol

  9. #9

    May 2008
    Melbourne, Vic
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    Maz, I got teary reading that too. Big hugs

  10. #10
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    Oct 2006
    Adelaide, SA
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    I dread the day I ask for a kiss or cuddle from DS and he says no and means it
    Me too

    Big Maz as you enter this next stage

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    Sep 2007
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    I know the feeling... I was there last year!
    How things can change! I still get it though. Summer is growing more every time I blink my eyes & its not fair
    Jesse's almost completely toilet trained, though he still mostly sleeps with us
    I refuse to believe he will not want to smooch & snuggle in public. He's my boy... thats really going to break me.
    I dunno about Summer yet, but the older girls are different. Very independant. Jesse's always been a mummy's boy...
    10 or so more years Maz & the grandchildren will start arriving (I hope its more than 10 years away though... you'll be waaaay too young for that )

  12. #12

    Dec 2005
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    10 or so more years Maz & the grandchildren will start arriving (I hope its more than 10 years away though... you'll be waaaay too young for that )
    I cant even imagine that....its to depressing.

    Cant I just bottle them up....preserve them, even when their naughty!!!

    M is my smotchy boy and even now he's telling me NOOOOOO how am I going to bare it when he starts 3yo next year???

    Someone pass the chocolate and vodka please

  13. #13
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    Jul 2007
    melb
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    Hugs I got teary reading that as I am same and mine are nearly 2 and 1/2 and 11 months. DH does not want any more kids :-( I would love another but I see his reasoning for no more and respect this.

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    Sep 2007
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    Instead of chocolate & vodka, I think we should get stuck into my turkish delight liquor & coffee nut whip liquor. Mmmm...
    Waiting patiently for christmas eve.......

  15. #15
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    Nov 2008
    in the ning nang nong
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    understandabe ... exciting, and sad, all at once!

  16. #16
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    Apr 2009
    in the garden
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    my youngest is still little... but I know she's the last & it makes me so sad to see her growing up so fast. And yet I am loving every new thing she learns & comes out with, and if she weren't growing up I wouldn't have that...
    DH refuses to entertain the idea of more children, he says we need to have a life as well and I guess he's right...but I like my life with kids

    As for grandchildren, in a year or so DD1 will be the same age I was whenI fell PG with her

  17. #17
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    Dec 2005
    In Bankworld with Barbara
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    Maz, come on in, the water's fine! I have been where you are not long ago and it is a huge turning point for us Mums. But the way I see it, it's like a book series when one book finishes and you can't wait to get the next book to see what happens next. I love where our life is atm, we have kids that are more self reliant, we don't need all the stuff that goes with having a baby and life just seems to have gotten 10 times easier for us. For sure I will miss all the things that you can do with them when they are little, but I am loving being able to have real conversations with the kids and forming a friendship with them as opposed to just being their mum kwim?

  18. #18
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    Nov 2010
    Cairns
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    Maz Im scared of ever leaving this baby age. I love how affectionate my kids are and how Im their whole world (selfish aren't I? ) I can't imagine not having the cuddley little people I have now and TBH in the back of my mind Im already thinking about #6. Im not ready to leave the baby stage.

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