thread: I've learnt - But am looking for a bit of advice

  1. #1
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    Jan 2010
    In Love land with my family :D
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    I've learnt - But am looking for a bit of advice

    Having a HUGE massive wedding isn't the be all and end all.

    2011 was our year to plan our wedding anyways

    We're officially engaged now .... and I've been thinking, maybe we should just have a small ceremony and go for dinner with the parents & siblings.

    With me being pregnant now, I'm wondering if we should marry in the beginning of the year that way it is out of the way and we dont need to worry about it (Decision NOT influenced by my IL's at all)

    Honestly - Would you do it? or would you wait until bubs is born?

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    Dec 2005
    In Bankworld with Barbara
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    If it were me, I would want to get married before the baby comes. I just don't think I could predict well enough what could happen to want to do it afterwards - how I would feel, how I would be managing motherhood with 2 children plus putting the finishing touches to a wedding. Not to mention if I wasn't feeling terribly body-confident kwim?

    And congratulations on the engagement!

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    Jan 2010
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    My thoughts exactly. I think it would be much easier to wed before hand.

    I think we will just have a ceremony then a restaurant for dinner.

    From SE Xperia x10a

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    Nov 2009
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    I got married at 17 weeks pregnant, though I had a little belly , you can barely tell in the pics, not that I care

    we wanted to be a family before bub came, we were planming a sept wedding , but moved it to June after we found out as I would have been 7 months pregnant, and unable to fly ( we married in Bali)

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    Jan 2010
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    Thanks for your input

    I'll need to talk to DF about this one now ....

  6. #6
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    Nov 2010
    Cairns
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    Im getting married in February (I will be 8 months pregnant) and doing a wedding on a tiny budget. Were just doing the ceremony and reception will be at a restaurant with everyone paying for themselves instead of a gift.

  7. #7
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    Dec 2009
    SE Queensland
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    We were half way through planning ours when we found out I was pregnant. We decided to postpone ours untill after bubs is born. I dont want to be pregnant and stressed about my wedding. And its not such a bad thing to have your little one at your wedding, a few of our friends did this.

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    Mar 2008
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    we had our wedding just after DD1 was born...she was 6 months old. i found it a bit stressful TBH. she still needed lots of boob, and i needed to get ready etc etc. no one was willing to help feed her EBM so it was pretty stressful. not also to mention that i wasnt really body confident at that stage and was also dealing with PND (so that also probably influenced things greatly). if i had my time again i would of done it either pregnant or waited a good year after DD was born. but that's just my

  9. #9
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    Apr 2009
    Bayside Melb.
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    well we got married when ds was 8 mths old and it was perfect ... i FF ds so that wasnt a hassle. Body wise i walked and walked with the pram and got down to 3 kg lighter than pre pregnant and i had my dress made to fit me from scratch... i was very proud of me and my post baby no.2 body. I wanted to get married after the bub as i wanted to enjoy the day and enjoy the wine the food etc etc... we got married in Echuca on Wharf then reception (a 4 hr) cruise on Paddlesteamer ... it was a afternoon wedding that went well into the night .. RE kids : funny as i didnt want kids there as a) wedding arent for young kids IMO b) i didnt want any drownings off the Paddlesteamer. However after the ceremony i didnt care who came on the boat as i was on such a high that everyone came on lol .... i was lucky my good friend looked after ds 8mths for me and dh and i had a beautiful day