Do you take responsibility for your own feelings? Our thoughts create our feelings, therefore it is only us who can end up angry, sad, happy, loving, kind or unkind. It was such a profound thing for me to realise a little while back now that it is not, 'He/she made me angry / made me suffer / ruined my life / upset me...' etc... but rather, 'I made ME angry / suffer / am ruining MY life by doing this.' Just like drinking the poison expecting the enemy to die. Not a nice place to be in that state, and yet the more you're in it, the more you stay stuck in it without knowing a way to pull yourself out. I think too if you are suffering, you become part of it by staying there, in that bad relationship, toxic friendship, whatever.

Taking responsibility for my own feelings has been life changing, because I no longer blame, but have an opportunity to look inside and see why these feelings/emotions are being created, and by what thoughts. If I look deeply into it, I can realise some very interesting things about the way my thinking works and how I wired it up... and have the opportunity to change it. Such a peaceful place to be, with so much growth.