thread: Early on and I'm so worried!

  1. #1
    Registered User

    Jul 2011
    5

    Early on and I'm so worried!

    Hi!
    I'm 21 and just found out I'm pregnant last week I think I'm about 5 weeks and a few days. It was a big surprise (a good one though ) but I'm really, really scared I keep expecting something to go wrong at any moment! I've had cramping for nearly two weeks now, it's like light period pains most of the time but sometimes its a bit more intense. Also, (maybe TMI) I had a little bit of pinkish sort of discharge a few nights ago, with a tiny little dot of bright red blood in it - i freaked out so much and started sobbing thinking I was going to have a miscarriage . Went to the doctor the next day and got an early u/s done because I was also worried about ectopic pregnancy as I have an increased risk of it. They couldn't see anything with the abdominal one so did a transvaginal scan and found what they think might be a tiny gestational sac in my uterus, but no yolk sac or fetal pole - he said it was too early and too small to tell. Also they could see any sign of ectopic so that's good.

    I know this should kind of make me feel a bit better but I'm really scared! I'm already getting attached to the little one (hopefully) growing inside me. I've read some of the articles on here and through some of the forums which has helped reassure me a lot but I can't stop thinking about what might happen! Sorry for going on! I'm just after a bit of advice or reassurance, this seems like a really lovely supportive place and I'm feeling a little lost.

    Anything would be really appreciated xx

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Sep 2006
    Perth
    4,516

    HI Pea Cake and welcome to BellyBelly (I see this is your first post )

    A first pregnancy, and even a 2nd, 4rd or 4th are all scarey times with us worrying about every little thing. A teeny gestational sac sounds about right for where you are as its still too early and that little baby is soo teeny tiny that you wont be able to see the yolk sac or fetal pole at 5 wks. And I would say the cramping is normal as your little one is getting size and comfy in your uterus and your body and uterus are already starting to change and grow.

    I hope I have given you some sort of reassurance, I guess the best thing you can do right now is just trust your body as it knows exactly what needs doing right now.

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    Hork-Bajir Valley
    5,722

    Welcome to bb! Congrats on the pg!!!!

    sent via my vortex manipulator

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Jan 2011
    Perth
    3,268

    Welcome to BB. I am just over 8 weeks and I have had the cramping on and off since just before AF was due. It was consistent at first and so like AF that I was constantly on the toilet checking for blood. I have not had any spotting but I am still getting the mild cramps and this is completely normal and common. It is your body growing and changing as it prepares to house baby.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Jul 2006
    Melbourne
    4,895

    Congratulations & welcome to BB!

    Join in the belly buddies group so you can chat with others that are due the same time as you

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Jul 2011
    Sunshine Coast
    21

    Hi Pea Cake!

    I'm in a similar position I think! I'm 22 and 5 weeks pregnant. I've also turned into a neurotic, panicking mess! It's really hard to chill out and go with it, but from someone who knows absolutely nothing about pregnancy I'm guessing that stress is not going to help bubs at all and we can't control things, really, so the best we can do is try and stay calm. (And believe me I know it's an easy thing to say but I'm struggling to practice it too!!)

    Looking forward to growing our bubs together
    Ali

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Jul 2011
    5

    Thanks everyone for the welcome and input it really does help hearing that it's probably all normal! Ali it really is a stressful time it's hard to switch off and relax but I think I'm getting a bit better at it. I'm pretty neurotic normally so this is quite full on!

    Had nausea today for the first time yet, I've never been so happy about feeling like I'm gonna throw up

  8. #8
    Registered User

    Aug 2009
    Ipswich, Queensland
    1,418

    Hi Pea Cake,
    Congrats and Welcome to BB.

    It's hard but just relax and try not to stress (easier said than done I realise) and just keep your mind occupied with other things to pass the time

    You will prolly be in the Belly Buddies group with Ali and I so pop over to that section and join in on the thread .

  9. #9
    Registered User

    Nov 2008
    Victoria
    561

    Congrats and welcome. My fingers are crossed all will be ok for you

  10. #10
    Registered User

    Jul 2011
    Melbourne
    9

    Unhappy Me too

    I am exactly the same. I'm 7 weeks and 4 days.... have become a panicked mess! SO unlike me. I had a lot of cramping to start with (quite bad like period cramps) - that didn't stress me too much because my breasts were engorged and I was nauceous.

    For the past week I've had bleeding/ spotting - and mild cramps.

    My doc told me to prepare for the worst.. I had an US on Friday, and all was perfect. I was over the moon!

    Then the bleeding kicked back in... Every time I go to the toilet I'm checking- I'm in tears every couple of days just at the thought I will have a MC. Sometimes I think reading the forums makes things worse as every experience is different, of course I focus on the worst ones.

    I hope it's not like this the whole way through, because the stress is exhausting..!!

  11. #11
    BellyBelly Member

    Oct 2008
    3,132

    Julsiepop and welcome to BB. Bleeding in pregnancy is scary but lots of women experience it and go on to have healthy babies. Sending you lots and lots of sticky vibes and crossing my fingers that everything is okay.

    Also welcome to BB, Pea Cake. I had heaps of cramping in all four of my pregnancies for the first trimester. It all turned out okay. You would think that once I had been through it, I would relax for my 2nd, 3rd and 4th because I know that cramping is a part of it, but unfortunately not. I still panicked and was running to the toilet a million times a day to check that there was no bleeding and everything was okay. Sending you lots of sticky vibes also

  12. #12
    Registered User

    Jul 2011
    5

    Oh Julsiepop you poor thing, I hope you will be alright and that your pregnancy is a sticky one . Hopefully the bleeding is just one of those things, it's so so scarey though. I haven't had any since the one time but I'm still getting light cramping and sometimes stronger for a little while. I'm checking all the time too, but have relaxed a bit more lately, still a bit obsessive though...

    Reading the threads has sometimes really helped reassure me - that women who have been through similar things have had a happy outcome. It makes me think 'thank god it might be alright after all' but then there are the ones that are not so good and make me really cautious. Every time i start getting too excited or thinking too far ahead i feel like i have to remind myself to hold back because it may not happen. Can't wait to get past the first trimester its just too scarey.

  13. #13
    Registered User

    Jul 2011
    Melbourne
    9

    Thanks guys... I hope for the best too! It can be hard with advice when every single pregnancy you hear about is the same, and yet so different - I always focus on the worst. I know the doctor has to be straightforward and direct, yet her reaction to the bleeding scared the bejeezus out of me, I just can't shake the feeling something might go wrong.

    I just can't wait to get over the first trimester so I can hopefully start thinking more positively!

  14. #14
    Registered User

    Jul 2004
    Perth
    1,864

    Hi and welcome to BB

    All i can say is keep yourself busy and remain positive as much as possible. I stressed like you about every single one of my pregnancies after #1 and ive just had #7. You sort of just have to ride the wave really. Some positives are that you wouldnt expect to see more than you saw at the gestation you are at. And the light cramping you are experiencing is normal, its everything implanting, and as long as it doesnt get severe or you experience bright red blood, its generally a normal thing, unsettling though i know.

    Sending sticky vibes to both you girls