Do your kids see your parents more or your partners parents? and did that come as a surprise to you?
Our girls see my DH's parents more than my parents and YES came as a BIG surprise to me!
My parents were the ones that nagged to be grandparents! than wanted granddaughters! well they have 2 of them and they hardly see them!
We use to live 5mins away from my parents, than moved (They whinged and complained) and we are now about 15mins away from them and we still don't see them much!
DH's parents live over 1hrs drive away and we see them HEAPS more! they are the ones to offer to baby sit, they are the ones always wanting to see the girls! and i really thought it would be my parents! I am now over having to drive to my parents to see them! i figure it is much easier for them to get in the car and come over but they never do!
Last time the girls saw my parents was fathers day and dad picked Miss Em up (the youngest) and she screamed and cried and didn't want to be held by him! He made some comment like "oh i am a stranger to her, and oh well what can i do?" what do you think you can blooming do? umm maybe visit!
So that is the reason behind my question... sorry had to have a little vent too
DS sees my DF parents more than mine. My mum visited my house twice in 2010, DF's parents visited every 3-6 weeks, sometimes more. Thing is DF's parents live 4 hours away- my mum lived 30 mins away! It doesn't surprise me though....
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I am separated but my ex's Dad, I thought he would be a lot more involved, they made the biggest song and dance about not having grandchildren in the time before I was pregnant; then there were all these "concerns" about us separating that apparently I would not wish for my son to see them..all a load of rot..
We live about 40 min drive from each. It's probably about the same. They would all be over every weekend if we let them! Always asking to babysit. We try and space them out.
We see my mum more (both DH's and my dad have died), and it totally does not surprise me, for a few reasons. Firstly, because mum lives in the flat downstairs from us But even before we moved into the same block as my mum, when we were an hour away on PT, we still saw my mum heaps. We both have a great relationship with her, and she was very excited to be a Nanna. DH's mother on the other hand...wasn't happy about being a grandmother, has a terrible relationship with DH, called me a whore once, and is a total piece of work. We've let her know a million times that if she wants to see DD, SHE has to let US know...she's seen DD once in her life so far, and we organised it But then she acts like it's our fault.
My kids have more to do with my parents. Although DH's parents don't live very far away we don't see them for very similar reasons as to why PZ doesn't see her inlaws.
My kids see more of my DH parents but that is mainly due to location. We live on a farm and DH parents live in town. Luckily for me MIL doesn't work and FIL is out at the farm everyday and has lunch in the house so the children have a great relationship with them both.
My Mum and Dad are divorced and both live in the same town 2 hours away. Mum see my boys quite a bit and will have them for a sleepover during school holidays, unfortunately Dad doesn't see that much of them. And since my eldest started school it has made life a lot busier and I don't travel home as often as I used to and for some reason my father chooses not to travel to where I live.
When we lived in Sydney, the kids saw DH's parents more. Now we're in Brisbane we see much more of my dad, who lives about 4 hours drive away. My mum lives in Malaysia for work but comes back twice a year or so.
My parents are 1.5 hrs away. DH's parents are 40 mins. My parents see them at least once a week. PIL's see about once a month. MIL used to look after them fortnightly, but dumped them when DH's brother had kids.
all grandparents live within a 5 minute drive but DS probably sees my parents more - mostly because they are retired & i'm a SAHM so we go round there probably 3 times a week for a visit. DS sees DP's mum a couple of times a week & she is also the one who babysits when/if we need so he probably stays at her house longer than anywhere else at a time. DP's dad is the one who lucks out - he runs his own business & is pretty busy but DS probably sees him once a week.
with them all being so close, i'm not really surprised how it's worked out & i do love that visits don't take much organising - we can just pop past the respective houses & see if they're home or they can drop round here. we're very lucky that they're all pretty cool & don't over-impose themselves. they just all love DS alot
my parents here coz D's parents live further away but the only reason we saw his parents more when we lived closer was because DH's mum worked in town lol i didnt go to her house by choice lol
DH's parents are passed so it's my folks only
DD used to have sort of "surrogate" grandparents in the town we used to live in - but they turned narky after her first birthday when we didn't worship the ground they walked on when they turned up an hour late to her party. we were both busy with out of town friends, and honestly didn't notice their arrival. so after that, i figured we'd focus on DD's ACTUAL grandparents, rather than nurturing relationships that were somewhat toxic (there was a lot more to it than that incident - that was just the straw to break the camels back!)
DD sees my mum at least once a week - mum picks her up and takes her shopping for the day. this week just been, she's seen her maybe four of the seven days - might be 10 minutes here, 20 minutes there, all day the next time. she sees my dad on the days she spends all day with mum
My DD sees my mum the most. She looks after her when we go out the majority of the time and she looks after her every second Friday. Then my Dad & his wife would see DD every few weeks to a month & they babysit from time to time.
DH parents live interstate, that is the reason they don't see DD hardly, but we try to visit 1-2 times per year and they come down to us 1-2 times a year. I think my mum would still see DD the most anyway, as my IL's have other grandchildren and work
My parents live 2.5 hours away so when we see them it is pretty full on as we are staying with them or them with us - DD would have had more sleepovers with them as my mum comes down, spends the night and then takes her back for a few days before we come up or meet them halfway.
DH's parents live 20 mins away. They don't make much of an effort to come out to our place. MIL works shifts so I never know when she is working - she often wants us to bring DD into work on the weekends but I don't really see the point (if she's busy all she can do is wave - if she's not busy she buys her crap from the snack machine). The times that PIL have had DD they look stuffed after an afternoon (also not a fan that they park her in front of the TV for most of the visit).
My parents, they live 5 mins away and my Mum looks after the kids evey Monday and Wed when I go to work. We go there every sat & Sun as DD loves the farm and I have my horses there. We are also selling this house to build one on the same farm to it will become everyday.
DH;s parents lived 45 mins away and we went there every second weekend - now they have retired and are living in their caravan and we have seen them every week - they come and stay in the c'van park in our town to see us.
We are all very close to both sets of parents, and I will say very very luck for the support and love that they give us.
HI HJ haven't seen you for ages It's all a bit weird with the grandparents isn't it! DS is my MIL's 1st grandchild and apparently she was really excited about ds coming along and arriving etc but we really don't see her much?? She always brings him things when she visits but we just don't see her much even though she lives about 1.5hrs away. My parents on the other hand live interstate and have a huge drive then plane fight to get here and they have made 5 trips here in a 12 month period and I think they will be here another 2 times before the end of the year!! I knew that they would visit a couple times a year as they always have I am surprised at how much they have been here so they have seen ds heaps more than MIL. FIL lives about 25mins away and he and his partner see ds the most of all of them which is no surprise as we have always seen them the most out of everyone.
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But even before we moved into the same block as my mum, when we were an hour away on PT, we still saw my mum heaps. We both have a great relationship with her, and she was very excited to be a Nanna. DH's mother on the other hand...wasn't happy about being a grandmother, has a terrible relationship with DH, called me a whore once, and is a total piece of work. We've let her know a million times that if she wants to see DD, SHE has to let US know...she's seen DD once in her life so far, and we organised it
But then she acts like it's our fault.
It's all a bit weird with the grandparents isn't it! DS is my MIL's 1st grandchild and apparently she was really excited about ds coming along and arriving etc but we really don't see her much?? She always brings him things when she visits but we just don't see her much even though she lives about 1.5hrs away. My parents on the other hand live interstate and have a huge drive then plane fight to get here and they have made 5 trips here in a 12 month period and I think they will be here another 2 times before the end of the year!! I knew that they would visit a couple times a year as they always have I am surprised at how much they have been here so they have seen ds heaps more than MIL. FIL lives about 25mins away and he and his partner see ds the most of all of them which is no surprise as we have always seen them the most out of everyone.
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