In sooo much trouble! (with my Mum)

[Netix]

... I haven't told my Mum yet that we are moving. And I will probably be in tree-town from tonight with the kids, starting work next Monday up there.

I haven't told her because I can imagine her reaction. Yelling, screaming, or just the plain silent treatment, or name calling. Or D) all of the above. She stresses me out so much. She had a huge go at me when we moved here, because before we were a comfortable drive for her. Now, its an extra half hour or so, and "families are supposed to move closer together, NOT further apart". Tree town is going to be three and a half hours or so past where we are now.

I did tell her a couple of weeks ago, no last week, when I spoke to her that we are moving, but she didn't ask where to, so I didn't say. I guess I probably should have.

Oh well, time to bite the bullet.... Wish me luck. I am alomost crying now before I even pick up my phone!

[aussienic]

Hope it goes well. If nit then remember you are doing it for your family. Hugs

[Shades]

Best of luck. Sounds like you'll be better off further away anyway if she stresses you out so much!

[Netix]

Thanks guys. I'm putting it off again, unitl later (as in when I'm probably in the other house), as I just rang the Man for some ideas as what to say. He said to pack and worry about it later. OKAY! And I hate packing!

[diannescruffy]

All the best with telling your mum.

Regards,
Dianne

[OceanPrincess]

Oooh Netix. Good luck with that one.........

It's saying something if you'd rather pack than call your mum. Hope she doesn't go too crazy.

[~Kaz~]

sounds like a tough situation to be in. Hope the call and the packing aren't too crazy hun and the move goes well. Thinking of you.

[Catastrophic]

Good luck. Remember your your own person with your own family. Don't think about what she will say xoxox your doing the right thing for you!


Love MN ;-)

[~me~]

Stay strong Netix..you are moving for quality of life, that's all that should matter to her.

[peanutter]

Great big hugs, Netix ... as the others have said, this is YOUR decision, based on what is the best for YOUR family.

You are not responsible for managing your mother's feelings and emotions (or reactions...)

You are entitled to finish a conversation if you need to (including if she is being disrespectful, abusive, shouting, manipulative or if it is not going anywhere) and you are entitled to finish a converstaion even if she wants to continue it.

You have made a decision, and she has to respect that even if she does not accept or agree with it.

Good luck, with the conversation.

[Raupe]

Tell her at least you're not Raupe who moved to the other side of the world. Yep, mum isn't happy having to fly 27 hours just to see me..... So tell your mum to suck it up, it could be worse!!

Good luck!

[Miss.September]

Good luck! I'd hate to think what my mum's reaction would be to the same news. Eeek!

[Phteven]

Good luck.
Is there a time you know she won't pick up and you can leave a message?

[Rowellen]

I guess she's not coping well with the empty nest. I think if she wants the family to move closer together, she should move herself because you of course have your life to live

PS Good luck!

[Netix]

lol Raupe, I did think about that! Well, we're up here now, I just need to tell her! Maybe another time, when I've finished unpacking. And sorting. And not at work for the day. And the kids are napping. Do I really have to tell her?

thank you everyone. i am just so not looking forward to it!

(still moving, so short replies from my phone)

[willow5]

Good luck.
Is there a time you know she won't pick up and you can leave a message?

Love it! I think if it were me I'd be taking that option though, seriously.

Could you even try the old, "but I told you ages ago mum and you thought it was great."? It might baffle her into forgetting to grill you further.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

If it helps, I still haven't told my mum we've sold our house and she has decided she's coming to visit in 3 weeks' time. (Damn inconvenient for us, but good for her.)

[Gigi]

best of luck Netix
(the unpacking part and the telling your mum part. i almost feel like linking you to the "narcisstic mothers" thread, as i'm reading between the lines, that that's what your dear mum might be).

I'm still trying to work out what "tree town" is code for, LOL.