Is this cancer? **TMI**

**hj1981** · October 29th, 2011, 09:32 PM

Ok so i have noticed some blackish spots on my vulva (yes yucky i know, and not something i would usually check, but i did)
they don't seem painful, they are small and have never been their before.
I have never have had any problems what so ever with "downstairs".
I have been googling and googling has me worried!
also the fact that for as long as i can remember i have always said i am going to die by the time i am 40 (10yrs away)
and than yesterday DD1 said to me "mummy when you die, daddy will have to find me a new mummy" i told her i wasn't going to die and she said "yes you are mum"
So now of course im stressing that this could be cancer, and that yes my time will soon be up!

**willow5** · October 29th, 2011, 09:41 PM

Oh crap! That would freak me out too

I really don't know if the spots are cancer, sorry I haven't even really hear much about vaginal or cancer of the vulva or any warning signs. I would go to get it checked out ASAP, if nothing more but to put your mind at ease

Has your DD said profound things that ended up being reality before

**willow5** · October 29th, 2011, 09:43 PM

I know it's hard to refrain, but googling isn't always a good idea.

**hj1981** · October 29th, 2011, 09:47 PM

Has your DD said profound things that ended up being reality before

no she hasn't, well not that i have noticed, but i have! which is scary!

and when i told DH what she said (because it upset me) he asked why did she say that, mummy isn't going to die! and she said "yes daddy she is"

i wanna get it checked, i need to go for a pap smear, but AF is due any day so am thinking maybe i am best to wait a few weeks, but it is really stressing me out!

and i know i shouldn't google but wanted to try and find out what it could be! i don't even know what it was that made me even look, but i guess it's a good thing i did!

**willow5** · October 29th, 2011, 09:56 PM

Ok now you've got me googling! I just read that as you get older (I'm not suggesting you're old at 30, but well...) your skin can start to get thinner and veins can actually start to show through looking like dark marks on your vulva.
And because it's stressing you, bugger AF and get it checked soon, they can still check your vulva, and hey, they might look and and go "oh yes that's nothing to worry about." Still sending more hugs

I know that stress feeling when you're worried about your health like that

**willow5** · October 29th, 2011, 10:02 PM

Here's a couple more harmless things, I know I tend to focus on the terrifying when I google for myself...HTH

Angiokeratomas

These are tiny clusters of dilated blood vessels with a scaly top, seen after puberty usually on the labia majora. They tend to become more numerous in older age. They are bright red initially but can become darker, almost black. Very occasionally they can bleed slightly if knocked. Other than that they don’t cause symptoms and are harmless.If they are causing problems they can easily be removed in the doctors office.

Seborrhoeic keratoses

These are harmless warty lesions found all over the skin in increasing numbers in people as they age (senile warts!) They are found on the labia majora in women from the thirties onwards. They are often dark in colour 2-5mm in diameter or larger. They can be solitary or multiple. They can cause alarm because of the colour, confused with melanomas. They are not anything to worry about with no potential to turn cancerous.

**hj1981** · October 29th, 2011, 10:05 PM

i went through a tough time dealing with turning 30 and now being this old may be changing my body

i knew it was all going to be down hill

but thank you willow, it has slightly eased my mind! and i guess they could maybe pass as possibly being veins, they are the colour of veins anyway

but i will be calling a doctor (gotta find a female one) first thing on monday, i really need to find out what it is, otherwise im going to start to go grey with worry, or is that age too

Thank you Willow for chatting with me

better try and get some sleep!

**hj1981** · October 29th, 2011, 10:07 PM

Here's a couple more harmless things, I know I tend to focus on the terrifying when I google for myself...HTH

Angiokeratomas

These are tiny clusters of dilated blood vessels with a scaly top, seen after puberty usually on the labia majora. They tend to become more numerous in older age. They are bright red initially but can become darker, almost black. Very occasionally they can bleed slightly if knocked. Other than that they don’t cause symptoms and are harmless.If they are causing problems they can easily be removed in the doctors office.

Seborrhoeic keratoses

These are harmless warty lesions found all over the skin in increasing numbers in people as they age (senile warts!) They are found on the labia majora in women from the thirties onwards. They are often dark in colour 2-5mm in diameter or larger. They can be solitary or multiple. They can cause alarm because of the colour, confused with melanomas. They are not anything to worry about with no potential to turn cancerous.

thank you thank you - i looked and looke but could only find bad stuff!

they are not scally or "warty" eewww looking, but im hoping its one of them

PHEW........... Im a bit calmer now

**willow5** · October 29th, 2011, 10:07 PM

You might feel better after some sleep. fresher and clearer thinking. Let me know how you go

**hj1981** · October 29th, 2011, 10:13 PM

most certainly will let you know how i go

thank you

Im hoping to go with Angiokeratomas, LOL

**diva det** · October 29th, 2011, 10:18 PM

hun
FWIW my mum has had vulva cancer and although it wasnt pleasant- hers hadnt spread and it hasnt affected her health at all
she had surgery, but no chemo or other treatment
they test the area to see if something is wrong by putting a vinegar solution on to it. She said that she first suspected something as her skin felt different- just not like it used to.

she has now been cancer free for 5 years!!! WOOT and they dont expect it to return
so put your mind at easy- go see a gyno and find out what they are!

**AnyDream** · October 29th, 2011, 10:22 PM

Dr Google is BAAAAAAD. See your real doctor for peace of mind, but really, it could be something quite common and not harmful. I mean it's not the kind of conversation you have around the morning tea table at work, is it

so you wouldn't know that it's harmless.

**jackrose** · October 30th, 2011, 11:35 AM

It must be really scary to be worried about something you are not easily able to get answers to. I think you have some great advice here and I am glad it has helped ease your mind a bit before you manage to get in to see your GP.

I just wanted to reassure you about the comments your DD has been making. I certainly believe that sometimes kids can have incredible insight and maybe they can sense things we don't know about but I think there may be may other explanations for her comments. Maybe she is very sensitive and has picked up on how you are feeling and is verbalising it. Maybe she has heard you talk about death and is trying to make sense of it.

I don't know how old your DD is but my nearly 4 year old talks about death a bit! We have visited family graves in the past and I guess she has come across death in stories, I certainly don't shy away from the topic as I see it as a part of life and I have been amazed at how she can happily discuss what will happen when I die! She talks about how she will miss Nana if she dies and how Daddy will have to learn how to make sandwiches properly when I die. A number of times she has told me that she will visit me at "the Gravy" (graveyard

) when I die. It has allowed us to explore lots of feelings and scenarios and I think it is a normal part of development for a child to make sense of things that are hard to comprehend to talk about them a lot, put them into play and revisit the theme in lots of different ways. I am sure this is what is going on with your DD rather than intuition. Don't be afraid to talk about it with her and address her concerns, but make sure you address your concerns too! It must be a terrible feeling to be worried about your health.

**hj1981** · October 30th, 2011, 07:54 PM

det - you have me worried again now! but it is reasuring to hear that your mum has done so well and is now cancer free and has been for 5 years! thats awesome

Marydean - hahaha your right about it not being a convo you can have around the morning tea table, i can't even tell my DH! ringing a doctor tomorrow! hope i can get in.

jackrose - we talk openly about death and dying to DD1 (3yrs), it all started when we had to put our dog down, we just thought it was the right thing to do! and now she knows that things die and go to heaven and when they do you don't get to see them again. It is reasurring to hear that your DD is saying some stuff about it too, maybe it is just a stage they are going through? im glad you think it is part of her development as opposed to an insight. I haven't been able to sleep much these last few days so really am looking forward to making a phone call to see a doctor tomorrow! THANK YOU

**Ilithyia** · October 30th, 2011, 08:02 PM

Anything odd down there is always worrying.

Is it black, black or dark purple?

No chance your pregnant?

**EsJay** · October 30th, 2011, 08:07 PM

im sure its nothing, but go get it checked out asap just to be sure.
hugs to you, i hope its a quick and positive diagnosis

**hj1981** · October 30th, 2011, 08:45 PM

Anything odd down there is always worrying.

Is it black, black or dark purple?

No chance your pregnant?

god i hope not!!!!!!

its like a blacky purple colour,

Jen - thank you, i hope you are right

**helle** · October 30th, 2011, 11:48 PM

Anything odd down there is always worrying.

Is it black, black or dark purple?

No chance your pregnant?

Haha I thought the same thing! I read back in the day a dark blue/purple vulva was how they confirmed pregnancies

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