Worried... What are my chances??

[tilygirl]

Yesterday I had my first U/S.
I had moved the scan forward from Friday the 13th as I had had some spotting and I had a nagging feeling we would only see a sac and no baby. My intuition is usually pretty good when it comes to things going wrong, but I wasn't sure, maybe I was just thinking the worst because that's all I know? But I was right... again.
Based on my LMP I believed I was 6w+5d. The scan showed no HB. There was a sac measuring 9 days behind my dates at 5w+3d. There was a fetal pole though which is better than I had predicted!
So now I guess, either my dates are wrong or something is wrong.

I had hcg levels taken earlier in the pregnancy to confirm my levels were doubling.
29/12 hcg 631 at 5w (3w+5d according to scan dates)
3/12 hcg 2997 at 5w+5d (4w+3d according to scan dates)

I will have to wait for the U/S report to be seen by my FS, who is away on leave but taking emails. She will then decide when she wants me to have another scan, I am assuming in around 2 weeks.

I find it hard to believe my dates are wrong as we have had very minimal BD'ing since Lucy was born. It just doesn't add up...

Also I am on progesterone twice daily. Could this be making my body think the pregnancy is viable and be stopping me from miscarrying??
I guess the only way we will find out what is happening is to wait for the next scan, then stop the progesterone if the pregnancy is not viable and wait to miscarry.

I need to hear stories if this has happened to anyone (good or bad outcome).
I do not want to get my hopes up, but I am also trying to remain positive.
I am trying hard not to assume the worst, but maybe there isn't meant to be the happy ending we hope for.
My family don't know what to say to us anymore. Right now they are just saying "everything will be fine, nothing else bad can happen to us, we have been through enough"...
I want to scream at them to shut-up, because they don't know that!

[Charlotte91]

I'm sorry I can't offer any advice, but I couldn't read and not post.
Praying that everything is OK with bubs and sending you heaps of s.

[Pholi]

My heart goes out to you as I read you story. Your family need to say, 'whatever happens, we are here for you.' I can't make any predictions, but I wish you the best of luck for a positive outcome.

[Joeve]

I am praying for you. Again I can't predict either. I had a similar situation and things didn't go well but can I say that many people absolutely have a positive outcome so stay positive as you can not do anything to change what happens either way hugs x

[Diamond Girl]

Tilly Girl, Im so sorry you find yourself on this rollercoaster again. Can I ask if the scan was abdominal or transvaginal? Secondly do you have a retroverted uterus? If you have a retroverted uterus it makes the baby appear smaller (which Drs equate to younger) than it actually is on a abdominal u/s, but as pg progresses the uterus moves forward and the baby appears to 'catch up'. Although I did not have a happy ending when this happened to me, I know plenty of people who have. So many in fact, that you should not give up hope. I know how easy it is for others to say be positive when you have been through so much loss, and how hard it is yourself to believe it will be ok.

I am hoping and praying this turns out xx.

[[M]umma[M]ia]

Was it an internal or external US?

Good luck, I hope everything is ok xox

[BexKitty]

The same thing happened to me recently, I had a scan on the 21st December and I should have been 6+4w and all that was seen was a Sac measuring 5+2w
I was having the same worries as you are
I went back for a follow up scan yesterday and there was a bub of 8+4w and doing well.
Sending you healthy bean vibes xxx


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[tilygirl]

Thanks guys for the prayers and hugs.
I really don't think I would have gotten through the last 3 years without BB.

Yes, the scan was internal. But I do have a retroverted uterus Diamond Girl, hopefully you are right and this is contributing to the small size??
Only time will tell.
Thank-you all for the support, it is going to be a long 2 weeks xx

[OceanPrincess]

Secondly do you have a retroverted uterus? If you have a retroverted uterus it makes the baby appear smaller (which Drs equate to younger) than it actually is on a abdominal u/s, but as pg progresses the uterus moves forward and the baby appears to 'catch up'.

I did not know that.

Tilygirl, really hope this is what has happened and that'll it'll all be ok for you

[RhiChiChi]

Similar happened to me, but unfortunately my news was not good - just a sac at what I should have been 5/6 weeks and went on to m/c naturally. I did have spotting, so that it why I went & got an u/s.
Given you are early & you have a retroverted uterus, it is really difficult to tell what is going on. A follow up u/s & bloods will shed more light. Best of luck, I hope all is ok & continues to be

[tilygirl]

Thanks BexKitty for your story, I am so hoping this happens to me!
Has anyone had any experience with progesterone, ie stopping then miscarrying??

[Maruschke]

Oh tily so sorry you are in this place of uncertainty again. I have a retroverted uterus but no trouble seeing bubs. My experience with being behind is not positive but I hope you are a success story. Much love xoxo M

[Kirley64]

Oh i'm so sorry to see this post

With a blighted ovum (or a missed miscarriage), the placenta part of conception continues to develop and make your body think it is supporting a baby...and therefore you hcg keeps climbing as it normally would and you have all pregnancy symptoms...however the baby stops developing. It seems like a very cruel trick!

My first miscarriage was one of these...so my heart goes out to you in this uncertainty.
For me i went for a scan at 9weeks (because i thought i was having twins i was showing that much!)and they picked it up. No fetal pole, no HB, and a very small yolk sack. Was measuring like 5weeks or something like that. She told me that it could either be a blighted ovum or my dates were wrong. I knew that my dates weren't wrong (especially by 4 weeks!!). I had hcg checked and it had started to drop by that point but it was still in the 100's of thousands. I didn't miscarry for another three weeks until it had started to drop right off. I did have another scan two weeks (i think) after and it had gotten even smaller.

I will be praying that maybe your dates are wrong....but in case they arent' I just wanted to explain what is happening. And once again i'm so very sorry to hear xx

[minniemouse]

hi tilygirl,

sorry you are going through this uncertainty, i have had 2 pregnancies where the baby measured a week behind and neither one ended well, i hope yours is a different story :-)

in regards to the progesterone i was on it in my last pregnancy and i kept going until the next scan 2 weeks later which confirmed it was over and then i stopped it and the miscarriage started a few days later, so yes for me the progesterone kept onto the pregnancy even though it was over

[tilygirl]

Thanks everyone for your honesty.
I am basing my dates on my LMP but I really have no idea when I ovulated. I wasn't testing and I wasn't taking any medications.
I have previously used clomid for other pregnancies and was charting temps and using OPK's.
This pregnancy was a complete accident, a natural pregnancy.
I'm not sure why I thought this pregnancy would be any different. I think I thought that because it happened naturally, that is was meant to be??

There is a slim chance that dates they are suggesting could be possible... but it's a long shot. Maybe I'm just clutching at straws??
We BD twice, first at cd12 which is when I was assuming I concieved. We also BD and again at cd24.
I POAS 29/12 (cd35) when I assumed I was 5w and 22 days post ovulation, based on my LMP and luteal phase of 14 days. It was a really strong pos (which I haven't had before, because I am normally POAS from cd28 and is a faint pos). So I assumed that 5w made sense. Based on scan dates on the I would have POAS at around 10 days post ovulation and got the strong pos??
I have always had a 28-31 day cycle so I had just ruled out getting pregnant on cd24, but it was only my 2nd cycle after Lucy so maybe I was still out of wack?

Still the only way we will know is by the 2nd scan. I just received a call form my FS rooms and they want me to have the scan in 2ish weeks with my FS, but she is completely booked out. They are going to try and squeeze my in on the 20th, but will call me back on Monday when my FS is back from leave.
So 8 more sleeps to ponder the what ifs...

Thanks so much for everyone's support xx

[k4t]

:hugs: I don't have any experience or advice to share but just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and really hoping you get good news at the next scan.

[Frantelle]

I measured a week behind at what I thought was my 6 week scan I was only 5 weeks (and I was tracking my cycle) and I remember being soo stressed out about it. But at my 12 week scan (going by my ultrsound dates) everything was perfect and I now have a perfect (well I think so) DS.

There is always hope!!

[Pholi]

I know the wait for that scan is going to be really hard. I hope you're ok, and I really hope bubs is happy and growing nicely.

See what the FS says, but it could be worth calling the secretary, explaining how concerned you are, and offering to come in at very short notice (if you can) in case they get a cancellation earlier?