When did sex stop being so painful? I had multiple 2 nd degree tears mainly on my right side so the entrance is scarred.
Also I'm wondering if it will be able to stretch properly for the next baby.
And I have my ob app soon for my check up and have ti haber a pap smear I'm so be scared its gonna hurt with her putting things in when I'm still hurting so much
i think that many people don't even attempt to have sex again until at least 2-3 months after having a baby. i can't remember when it was for us now but when we talked about it at mother's group i think only 2 out of the 8 of us had attempted sex & the babies would have been around 11-12 weeks old at that point - possibly older.
you may need to give yourself more time to heal - i'd say alot of people wait until after their check up before they even try.
fwiw, i think i was fine around 10 weeks but it may have been longer & it certainly wasn't the same as pre-baby for a number of months.
your ob will be able to reassure/advise you about stretching properly for another baby - make sure you ask her when you have your check up
Give yourself a break, matey! Even without tears, many women need months before they are comfortable having sex. Your vagina has been through a really big event and needs recovery time.
When you do feel up to it, lots of foreplay and lube, and you need to feel comfortable in stopping or slowing at any point. Talk about it before you start so your partner knows.
As for a pap smear, if you are not ready then you don't have to have it at this time.
There are things that can help you next time, positioning, massage with almond oil, water. For now, just focus on recovery and feeling better.
Thanks was just wondering, dh and I thought we would give it a go before my ob app to see how it was plus we miss it but dh is great and lets me go at my own pace
Ouch!
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