Yay! After we dropped the kids off at school and daycare (boo hoo, sniffle sniffle), the Man and I went to the jewellers. Mainly to get them to check my engagement ring which I knocked quite hard at work a while ago (so haven't been wearing it ), and for me to look at a wedding band for the Man that he had seen in there a little while ago.
Well he chose out a different band, yellow and white gold two tone, and about 10mm wide. I chose two (matching) wedding ring and eternity ring, which have to be specially made to match my engagement ring.
Anyway, we haven't yet set a date. Or location. Or 'style'. Or much else! But planning is happening! YES!! I think this is the best time to plan it, as every other time we have started planning, I have ended up pregnant! So, since I'm already pregnant, make the most of it!!!!! lol
Any help or suggestions that anyone can offer, gladly appreciated!
PS, guess I had to come in and say something happy, as I am very sad for dropping my kids off. The house is very empty. In fact, we are going out again, I can't stand it.
Yay. I hope you have a fantastic time planning your wedding.
My only advice is don't sweat the small stuff. I was pretty cruisy through all my wedding planning and really enjoyed it, but spent days or even weeks thinking about table centrepieces etc. On my wedding day after the ceremony the hotel people took DH and I into our reception room to see it all before it was filled with guests and things got moved around. All I can remember is that it looked beautiful, but not the specifics that I had spent sooooo long thinking about.
I've got an empty house too. Counting off the minutes until I can go and get my babies from kindy and pp. Thank goodness I'll soon have another little baby to fill my day and the emptiness and quiet.
Don't sweat the small stuff!?!?!? What else am I to do though? lol. It's all about the small stuff (according to me), and since its going to be such a small wedding (both in numbers and where it's likely to be), it will be all about the small things! But, to use your example of centrepieces, I needn't worry, as I doubt very much that we will even have them!
Today we had a late lunch (impromptu picnic for two! OMG, so strange sans children!) in the big park in town on the river, and we even thought under a tree next to the pond would be nice. Or the rotunda... Big enough for all our guests (like I said, not many people!), and perfect for some wedding-like decorations. We just need to find out about using the park, because that would suit us. Neither of us are three or four course 'banquettees', more like a friendly barbeque!
I currently work at a big resort (and aside from the work issues I am having there), that sort of wedding or reception doesn't interest me. Even when I worked at Motels/Reception centres in the past it hasn't caught my eye, for want of a better description I guess. Neither of us have very big families (only my brother and my mum, the Man's dad and step mum, and *maybe* step brothers, sisters, inlaws from interstate), and a small group of friends. There would be very little point having a fancy reception for such a small group. I think I would feel worse for it being so small and fancy, I would feel like I was a bit of a loser, as weddings I have been in contact with through jobs are all 100 people plus.
Has anyone been to a small wedding in the park kind of do? What did you think were good and bad points?
I have been to a small wedding in a park, and a small wedding in a backyard. Both were lovely - as they were what the couples involved wanted.
Tips for such things: make sure there are enough seats (even just fold out chairs that you've asked from friends to bring the day before) for elderly, pregnant or frail guests, and make sure that there's some shade!
Catering can be as laissez-faire as you like too - even asking guests to being something sweet and something savoury to share in lieu of gifts, if you like.
Decide on what specific things you want, what time of year you're thinking, and what the budget is, how many people you reckon you'll have, and everything can go from there ...
I *love* weddings - do you have any ideas? More than happy to do a little brainstorming online
If you are thinking about using a reception centre I would book now. We booked 12 months prior to our wedding date and managed to get the last Saturday left in the month that I wanted to have it in. Also I would highly recommend a reception centre because they took care of everything from the food, drink, chapel, table centrepieces, music. I didn't have to worry about too much at all. They cost a bit more depending on when you book, but definitely worth it.
Good luck with all the planning! And once you find your dress, don't look anywhere else, EVER!
We had what I think is a small wedding - 50 all up including us. We did have it at a resort, but its one out in the Swan Valley in Perth and its really not ritzy at all - surrounded by golf course, native bush etc. Ours was outside in the garden and just gorgeous (I think!). Friends are having their wedding at our place early next year and it will be outside under the trees, with catering of some kind but really casual - maybe spit roasts or something similar. I think your wedding is about the people that are there, not the location. I've been to backyard weddings and weddings at 5 star hotels that cost literally $100,000s and the money doesn't make them any better or more memorable - at least not memorable for the right reasons!
Make sure if you are looking at an outside wedding that you have a backup plan if it is either raining or stinking hot on the day - nothing worse than having a beautiful park wedding with everyone standing around getting soaked. Friends got married in an area of the University of Western Australia called "The Sunken Garden". We had very unseasonal rain and it literally was sunken - ankle deep in mud. Just yech.
I haven't been to a small wedding in the park but we had a very casual backyard wedding. On the down side, there were a lot of little things that I would have liked to have done differently & didn't - but that was mostly due to budget & time constraints. The big plus was that our guests were very relaxed & it was much of a party atmosphere, which we liked.
In the park, you would have to be prepared for onlookers I guess, but that might just add to the fun
also with parks, they can book up in advance (esp ones with gazebos, etc) and some have loads of rules about what you can and can't do - a friend ended up giving up on having it at a particular park because there was basically no shade, and while they were allowed to erect a marquee or similar, they weren't allowed to put anything *into* the ground, so they couldn't put in any sort of pegs or pullies or stumps, etc ...
so they picked another park, not as nice, but there was a really big tree that they could have the ceremony under ...
Thanks Peanutter, a couple of really good points there. Great ideas. Could do the bring-a-plate idea, although 95% of the attendees would be from waaaay outta town, so that would make it really difficult. I was thinking along the idea of LuluHB and spit roast catering. Want our guests to be well fed, but i don't really want to have to do it myself! . I will definitely have to research what we can do at the park. Or rather what we can't, and then do everything else!
Neither of us have any interest at all in going to a reception centre Tasha, sorry.
I guess we do need a backup plan for weather.... Hmmm.
Fleur, I think if we had onlookers they would be pretty friendly, as most people around here seem to be. And if they're not, then they'll have our friendly guests asking them to leave! Lol.
It's ON!
), and for me to look at a wedding band for the Man that he had seen in there a little while ago.
I think this is the best time to plan it, as every other time we have started planning, I have ended up pregnant! So, since I'm already pregnant, make the most of it!!!!! lol
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Big enough for all our guests (like I said, not many people!), and perfect for some wedding-like decorations. We just need to find out about using the park, because that would suit us. Neither of us are three or four course 'banquettees', more like a friendly barbeque!
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