Hi there, I am a first time poster, and was hoping for some advice. The quick run down is: TTC for nearly two years, we are 28 (me) and 34. I am recovering from my laparoscopy ATM, where no abnormalities were detected (had, d & c, dye, hysteroscopy and lap) . All other tests have been normal. We have had four failed IUI's.
I will be seeing my dr in 6 weeks for a post op check, I am pretty sure IVF is the next step. I have just started a new job ( heaps less stressfull job!!) and will find it hard to take time off work. Do you think it's worth taking some time for myself to relax ( enjoy my new job) seeing as really there is nothing wrong with either of us, before we go to IVF, in the hopes that forgetting about it all for awhile will help with stress levels? As there so far, is no reason to explain our infertility (which of course is a blessing, but also very frustrating, and makes me concerned there is a more serious condition underlying)
Thanks in advance for the advice. I have been reading a lot of the posts and you all seem very supportive.
Hey! Welcome to bb. Sorry to hear you are having problems its great they didnt find anything but i know how nice having an answer is. *hugs*
In terms of waiting thats up to you and you SO. it is a very long emotional journey but would you feel better taking action? absolutly relax now, heal from your lap etc.. Maybe see what ur fs says.
I think if there is no rush, it might be better to enjoy your new job for a while. You will need to take time off work for egg pick ups, embryo transfer and the blood tests which can be every second day in a cycle - so you might be late for work depending on start times. Also, on I needed to take at least one day off after my egg pick up.
So it might be better to be settled in your job before. Also, you should really find out their policy on maternity leave - because fingers crossed, you won't have to wait too long and then it would be great to have mat leave. But they might not be happy if 6 months into the job, you tell them you want to go on mat leave in a few months.
But if you are desperate to start trying and not worried about mat leave or taking time off, then go for it!
Good luck :-)
I guess I'd be asking myself whether taking a break would be more stressful ie would I be getting aggitated waiting and waiting to go back and try again. If you think that taking a break will put you in a better head space to tackle IVF head on then definately take a break .
Unexplained infertility is pretty common, hun and doesnt necessarily mean there is something else underlying so try not to stress about that too. DH & I had unexplained infertility too and I know how frustrating it can be, especially when ppl think you are lying and there MUST be something 'wrong' with one of you
Good luck with the decision and I hope you get your BFP soon
i am new to bb too, but have lurked for quite some time. you will find lots of useful info/advice here, i know i have.
sorry to hear that you are having trouble ttc, i can fully empathise with you - being another 'unexplained' myself. i know i should be careful what i wish for, but sometimes i just wish they would find something wrong so that i have an answer as to why it hasnt worked yet.
have you thought of trying alternative therapies, like naturopathy, chinese medicine, acupuncture? might be a softer way to start out, and would also put you in tip-top shape if you decided to do ivf at a later stage? while i didnt conceive doing these therapies, i did feel great and the acupuncture relaxed me too. you never know, you might be one of the lucky ones that it works for!
Thankd so much. I will wait and see what my doctor says I guess! I am also terrified the disappointed that will come with iVF so will probably want my personal life pretty grounded ( which good workmates goes without saying)
Thanks everyone for responding, so nice of you
Cheers and good luck to you all!
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