Should I keep waiting to hear from her?

[kateo]

This is a bit weird but I do need some opinions.

I met a new lady from our area a few weeks ago at another neighbours place. She and I got talking about how she wanted to revitalise her gardens and paddocks. I offered to save some horse manure for her so she could come get it in the trailer. I didn 't hear from her again until last week-end when she rang to ask if she could get the manure.

I generally spread it on my own pastures so I didn't have any prepared for her to collect (ie in a big pile). Keep in mind I am doing them a favour by giving away manure. I have a very good pasture improvement program using my manure. They are in no way assisting me by taking away waste. In my conversation initially with this woman I made that fairly clear.

I said I'd prepare some for her to collect and all last week I creted a pile of manure for her to collect week-end just gone.
I didn't hear from her until Sunday arvo. She rang at 3pm and asked if she could come get the manure. No worries.She rang again at 4.30 and said she couldn't make it until 5.30. 6pm rolls around and we are doing "dinner bath bed" routine with DS and she still hasn't arrived. I ring her and get her OH. He says they aren't coming now as he's "busy" watching car racing on TV. He said they "might pop in" during the week and collect the manure.
It's now Wed and I haven't heard from them.
1. Do I keep adding to the pile for them or take the easier option of continuing my normal spreading routine?
2.Do I start (the quite large job) of re-spreading the large pile I created for them?
3. Do I ring them AGAIN and ask what they are planning to do?
4. Do I tell them they can come and collect if they do ring or tell them "sorry thought you weren't wanting it now" and forget the whole thing?

[Joeve]

Just leave what you have give them til the weekend and if they don't come by Sunday afternoon use it for yourself. I definitely wouldn't make the pile bigger because I get how heavy it is to move it around if they never come!!!

[WannabeMum]

Perhaps you could ring, explain that you'd normally spread it on your own pastures and you'll have to do that today unless she picks it up this afternoon, but if they would like some in the future, you're happy to oblige. If they call to organise this another time, give them a 24 hour window to pick it up. "I'll have to spread it on X-day morning, if you could pick it up before then, I'd appreciate it, otherwise, I'm sorry I can't leave it in the pile."

I think you've been very generous. You could always invite her over for afternoon tea and an afternoon of collecting poo! She would then have an idea of what you go through to get it together for her, and you might get a poo collection helper

[kateo]

Thanks for the comments ladies. I am quite reluctant to ring because I don't want her to think she's doing me the favour.....
I like the idea of just leaving the pile "as is" until next week-end. I will then have a "steaming pile" as it's heating up so there'll be a large patch of dead grass under it.....easy to re-seed just annoying.
If I don't hear I'll just start re-spreading it. The pile is a weeks worth of stable collection ( including Rice Hulls which are excellent mulch) and some paddock collection. I usually do this then as I fill the barrow I spread according to my "roster" across my paddocks. I thought I'd help out so I've got about 9 huge barrow loads to re-spread of she doesn't come plus (due to the fact *****e happens) I have the usual barrow a day........her not coming has doubled my work for a week esp. since I have to fill the barrow from the pile.......arrrrgggggghhhhh

[LionsandBears]

I say do what ever works best for you and your paddocks. They are obviously pleasing themselves, so forget about them. What if you slowly take some off the pile each day? Would that break the job up for you or would you prefer to do it all at once? I certainly wouldnt keep adding to it.

People can be so rude.