Tell me it's ok not to get great marks

[surprised]

Hi all,

Currently studying a masters by coursework. DS1 is 2 and DS2 is 4 months. I also run our business. It's tough going, and I'm finding that I need to accept I cannot get awesome marks all the time. But I find it really, really hard because historically I've been a distinction average student.

Please tell me your stories of pre and post children study and whether you found you had to sacrifice good marks for a bit of sanity!

Thanks ox

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

You get a Master's degree if you get 100% or if you get 40%.

Which would your sons prefer you get? A degree that means you don't play with them or one that means you can sometimes? And what would you rather look back on?

(BTW, I managed 45% for my last Uni study and that makes me just as qualified as the person who was over 90%.)

[nothing2lose]

I think what's important is the learning, and the ultimate result of the learning, not the marks along the way.

Good luck!

[LionsandBears]

P's get degrees!!

I did my MBA without kids and I struggled. I also strive for good grades. It was really hard work. Maybe strive on unit's you're interested in or are harder and do the minimm for the others.

[Phteven]

P's get degrees.

But on the other hand I know how much it sucks seeing a C instead of a D or a HD so you have all my sympathy

ETA - *snap* L&B.

[feeb]

At the end of the day you get your degree/masters/phd etc a pass is a pass you still qualify to graduate as long as you pass whether a pass or high distinction.

I hear you on how hard study is I am doing my 2nd grad dip and this time I have a nearly 4 year old and a nearly 2 and 1/2 yr old and I work as well. Have lots of Uni requirements including placements and it is very very draining but as long as I pass that's all that matters. Employers care that u r qualified and best for the job not what grades you get.

Hugs keep doing as you are coco xoxo

[Trillian]

Of course it's OK! If I had a dollar for every time I'd heard someone say they thought they did a great job on an assignment only to get a P I'd be rich! Some lecturers are really hard markers and then there's that damn bell curve too. It's really only an issue if your either failing, or you wanted to get an honours pass.

[LimeSlice]

I think the fact you are meeting your requirements and getting passes is feat in itself!

Take a different perspective You are doing an awesome thing and it won't matter in the slightest what your average grade was.

*This message was brought to you by a self-professed HD-seeker ;p*

[Purple Penguin]

You are doing a fantastic job and it is ok not to get the highest marks.

I always say when I hand in my assignments that I'll be happy with a pass and anything higher is a bonus.

[KitFaerie]

I'm gonna third it - P's get degrees! I wrote my thesis during my son's first year, and it was hard to watch my marks slide, but I figured that I had three huge responsibilities in my life (son/husband/uni) and it was only uni that I could re-do if I needed too. I am far more proud of my 4 something GPA than I ever was of my 6 something GPA, because it means that I devoted myself more to my son than to my thesis.

[Catastrophic]

Accept it xox

P's make degrees!

[surprised]

Thanks so much everyone. Your replies have really helped. I guess it's all about balance hey.

It's like how my VBAC was hardly natural (gas, epidural, pethidine, vacuum), but to me it's more satisfying than if I'd had a really easy natural delivery.

Thank you.