DP thinks he is going to die soon

[anney]

Not sure where to post this but here goes - dp says he is ready to die and thinks he is going to die soon. Not in having suicidal thoughts, just truly believing his life on earth will end soon. He has had some crap things happen in his life and memories of this have recently surfaced more to the point where I think he is truly sick of dealing with emotional stuff all the time and this combined with him now having some physical ailments he sees death as a peaceful natural solution. He is talking about it increasingly and last night said his grandmother was a well woman and started telling them she could see herself going away somewhere and then she died a few weeks later. He says he feels like he pictures himself going somewhere and expects to die.
Does anyone have any experience with death premonition as you can imagine, I am a bit freaked out.

[foreva*your*mummy]

I havent had any experiences with this but wanted to reply because this must be so scary for you.
Im sorry that your DH has to go through this, stay positive and reassure him you dont want him to go anywhere.

[HotI]

As a teenager i was quite sick and we were told that i probably wouldn't live past 25 years of age. I got an accurate diagnosis couple years later and treatment that meant my condition stabilised, and so the prediction was no longer there. However, coming up to my 25th birthday, i was sure that because i had cheated death once something else would happen to cause me to die. I really struggled with it and then came to just accept that it was going to happen. i felt that i was ready if it happened. I also thought that if i didn't bring attention to or acknowledge my birthday then maybe i would be ok, or the end wouldn't be nasty.

Even though i had my rational mind saying one thing it was incredibly hard not to listen to this inner voice that was telling me what was going to happen. Knowing where it was coming from (my experience as a teen) did help me to work through it, but it wasn't until my birthday had past and probably up to my 26th birthday that i really believed that the premonition was wrong and i was able to throw it off forever.

It was a pretty horrible thing to go through, but also liberating once it was over.

[Rouge]

Is he gifted at all? Often people who are sensitive to the spiritual world, mediums, psychics fear and see their deaths often. It's like a side effect. I've been told this by a lot of sensitive people. And they all say that it's not accurate, but more like a fear. I don't know if that helps

[fionas]

I've been feeling this for the last few years. At first it freaked me out completely but now I think that maybe it's not an accurate premonition but more of an assessment of how my life has turned out so far and to get a wriggle on to do the things that I'll find truly rewarding. I actually find the Buddhist approach really comforting. Buddhists believe that keeping death in your thoughts is a very useful thing to do so that you focus on making your life worthwhile.

At the end of the day, no-one can possibly know whether what he's feeling is accurate and let's hope it's not. But he could use those feelings in a positive way to assess his life.

It must be very difficult to hear your partner talking like this so big hugs for you!

[RhiChiChi]

Death can represent change in dreams. Perhaps there is something that is happening in his life ie: a change of direction, job or something is coming up that will change and he can sense that.

[Tinks]

Just putting it out there, could he be suffering depression?

[maybebaby2012]

My goodness that would be terrifying and heartbreaking for you! While it is possible it could be some kind of premonition , I wonder if it is worth him exploring other options as well like his mental health, possible depression etc? I would be accepting of his feeling,s but also gently encouraging him to explore all explanations for them, you know? The mind is such a powerful thing when it comes to health, even people who have a legitimate diagnosis of terminal illness benefit from a positive attitude & faith.

[Starfish]

Death can represent change in dreams. Perhaps there is something that is happening in his life ie: a change of direction, job or something is coming up that will change and he can sense that.

I was going to say something similar to this. "Death" does not always have to signify death of the physical body, but it can be metaphorical, like a change in the direction of life.

[anney]

Oh what RhiChiChi says does make sense. He does seem to have a different attitude to his issues so maybe that is leading up to a directional change in his life.
He does have depression which is normally managed relatively well, but this is different. It is like he has been released from the depression because of this feeling he is not going to be around. Maybe it is wishful thinking on his part. I didn't mention the depression in my initial post as I did not want to go down the track of him being suicidal as I know that would not happen. Confusing but I guess I just have to make sure he keeps talking about what is going on in his head. thanks

[Tinks]

You don't have to be suicidal to question your own mortality.

[Onelittleprincess]

DHs uncle always said he would pass young and never thought he would see 40. He passed at 38 from a bike accident. I think people may know when things are coming.

[Astrid]

I had strong "going to die" feelings for a couple of weeks, turns out it was related to my own sisters death. At that stage I did not know how bad she was or that she had been admitted to hospital. The feeling lifted once she passed.

The death feeling could well be connected to someone else. Does not make it any better though.

[MummaBee]

When I read your post I immediately thought depression, same think happened to my mum she was sure she was going to die and was no uncomfortable about it she went to her doctor and he prescribed anti depressant and anti anxiety medication. Also this feeling is a common feeling in post natal depression.
Im not saying that this is defiantly the case just sharing my experience