Cleaning part vent part advice :)

[Emma09]

Hoping for some words of wisdom:

I wanted to pay someone to clean my oven/cooktop, I told DH and he was flabbergasted at the idea.
He think I should have told him it needed cleaning.
We both look at it/cook in it etc.... How come I see how dirty it is- and he can't?
It hasn't been cleaned for 2+ years
I find I'm always telling him what he needs to do as we 'share' the cleaning.
I'm sick of being a maid for him and his cousin who regularly stays here.
I'm sick of having to tell them what needs cleaning.
Nobody minds doing things, once they are asked/told- but I don't think I should always have to ask/tell.

Would it be rude/childish to make a list for my DH to follow?
We've just had a massive fight about it.

[LuluHB]

I think its reasonable to make a list if he doesn't work it out for himself. FWIW, my DH is like this too. Every now and then I'll just think sod this, and leave the dishes and wait to see how long it takes before he actually washes something. Of course, the usual outcome is that I end up really peeved and washing mountains of dishes myself because its been three days and they're starting to smell ;-)

I also hate the "I've done X for you". Ah no you haven't love. You've done it because it needed doing. Your house too!!

[Emma09]

Yep- I get that too.
Thankfully, one of DH's day to day jobs is to clean the kitchen- so stack the dishwasher, wash any excess dishes and wipe the benches etc.
BUT he doesn't wipe down the cooktop- which is white and needs constant attention.

[RhiChiChi]

I'd also do a list of chores that need doing for the week and either assign them to each other at the beginning of the week or see if you can sort it out between you two. Why don't you get the stove done by someone then make a 'pact' to have to maintain it to that standard?? I know my DH is a little lax when it comes to housework too, particularly the stove top and benches..... GL

[Tegam]

I also hate the "I've done X for you". Ah no you haven't love. You've done it because it needed doing. Your house too!!

my pet hate!!

[chody47]

DH and I also share the jobs, although, like in your situation, I usually have to ask for certain things to be done (except the kitchen, he seems to realise when that needs doing).

I do the whole list thing. If he is home for the day I often leave a note mentioning a couple of jobs to be done (even as simple as washing - DH never notices of the basket is overflowing). Some weekends if there are lots of things to do I'll make a list, leave it on the bench and we will both pick things from it until it's done.

[coolshades]

Good luck. Depends on how you work things around the house?

[Kazbah]

I use post-it-notes that I stick on the door at his head height. Mine is the SaHD and I still have to let him know what to do!!!