Intimacy...

[little_O]

How long after having bub does it no longer feel uncomfortable to dtd?

I only had grazes to the labia, but whenever we dtd it feels really tight and "pulls" inside. But like stretching skin near a scab. Does it just need to restretch?

[Heaven]

I had a 2nd degree tear and it felt a bit like that at the start the first few times. But I actually think it was a lot in my head aswell. I was expecting it to feel like that. Whatever it was it didn't take long for me to get back to normal

[Charlotte91]

Subbing.

I had a minor labial graze and we are yet to DTD. We're keen to "Get Going" but I'm worried how it's going to go.

[Tinks]

I actually didn't have any pain, we started having sex again at about 6 weeks.

Have you tried using lube? If that doesn't help you should really see your dr.

[xXHopeXx]

I had a fairly minor labial tear, but required about 7-10 stitches because of awkward positioning of the tear, and the midwife/doc was concerned it might not heal properly and cause problems. Anyway, we DTD at about.. 4-6 weeks I think it was? Mainly because the stitches took ages to dissolve and they got slightly infected so I had to take some ABs.

Once we did DTD again there was no pain whatsoever though. Felt completely normal but then DH was quite hesitant and careful too because he (well, we, really) were abit concerned it would hurt me, so it was a lot gentler than usual

HTH


Sent from the land of "iSomethings" so forgive me for any spelking misstaks

[MantaRay]

It's different for everyone and is a combination of things - physical trauma, physical exhaustion, lack of sleep, emotional "worn outness" and potentially low oestrogen levels. If you are bfing you are more likely to have low oestrogen levels for the first few weeks after the birth. There is a cream you can use to help with this. It's best to speak to your health professional to find out more if you are interested in doing something about it. It does get back to normal - after the first couple of months for some, after the first couple of years for others - it all comes down to you and your own body and situation.

I always found the hormonal contraception was an issue too.

[Cass72]

I was "uncomfortable" the first time but I think it was because I was nervous/tense expecting to feel pain. The next time (day hehehe) it was better/back to normal as I was more relaxed and not expecting to hurt.

[little_O]

I actually didn't have any pain, we started having sex again at about 6 weeks.

Have you tried using lube? If that doesn't help you should really see your dr.

Yeah we have, but he's using protection JIC, would that make a difference?

My gyno checked me at 6 weeks and said all was fine, just dry from bfing.