Sex during early pregnancy

[starz01]

Hi everyone,

Since finding out that I was pregnant I've been terrified of making love with DH. My main reason is that having fallen pg back in Feb of last year I suffered a very early MC the morning after we had been intimate the night before. I know deep down that this wasn't the reason for why I MC'd. There was obviously something wrong that caused it and it just wasn't meant to be but even still I've been avoiding BDing with him since after we got the confirmed BT.

DH keeps telling me that he is more than happy to wait until 12 weeks when we are out of the danger period but at the end of the day I want to keep my husband happy.

Can sex actually cause harm to the growing embryo or am I just being silly? Can his semen disrupt anything inside me and if we do something should I keep myself from 'finishing'?

I'm sorry if this question is a bit confronting but I really need some reassurance before we try anything. It's the only thing that I've been scared of doing since falling pg.

[Onelittleprincess]

You being comfertable is the most important. Husbands have hands (sorry) my DH went without for 30 - 35weeks as I wasn't interested and didn't want to risk anything either having had a premmie then recovery after birth. DH knew my reason and supported it. Like he said 'mrs Palmer is happy'

[Butterfly Dawn]

I think that's a much debated topic.
personally, we don't during the first and last 3 mths. 1st Im scared of mc and sick. last Im too big and uncomfortable lol.
I say go with your feelings its your body
he'll manage. its only a little while, kinda

[jellybean88]

Unless the dr says no it should be ok I guess don't be too rough we dtd less when I'm pg cause I do worry but gosh pg dtd is awesome

[Tinks]

I can understand why you're anxious about it but sex is fine during pregnancy unless your dr says otherwise.

[LuluHB]

I never do. I've lost a few and while I have been assured by my OB that DTD is completely safe, I just don't so there's one less thing I can feel guilty about IYKWIM. My DH has always been very understanding - he's gone through 2.5 full pregnancies with next to no sex.

i think whatever the medical advice is is probably irrelevant in this situation - just do what you're comfortable with and chat to your DH.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope you have a healthy and very uneventful 8 odd months.

[raffy]

I've had two 'text book' pregnancies, labours and birth that resulted in two happy, healthy little boys and we DTD as often as we usually would. But as previous post have said you just have to make sure you're comfortable with it. Your DH will survive

[RhiChiChi]

We don't in the first trimester due to my history of m/c. I know deep down that my m/c had nothing to do with having or not having sex but I don't want any more what ifs? running through my head. I think if you discuss this openly with your DH, I am sure he will understand. There are other ways to be intimate without having intercourse.

[starz01]

Thank you so much for your responses ladies and for being so open and understanding about my concerns.

I feel so silly avoiding it when it is how I got pg in the first place but this new little life inside of me means everything to me so I will definitely take everyone's advice and do whatever I'm comfortable with.

[Peace]

I completely understand! We are going through our first MC at the moment and it started with brown mucas straight after we made love. We will try to conceive again but I'm not sure if I'll be terrified to have sex incase I see that brown again

[forshelby]

Do what feels right for you.

I also find myself quite tense about DTD in the first tri. We have once since the BFP and I saw a tiny spot of 'almost' brown the next day. That was enough to make me want to avoid it. Having said that...... I think this is going to be a randy pg LOL. Crazy sex dreams are making it difficult to resist, so if I do find mysel overcome with the desire to get it on , there's only one rule. Gently does it!

Every woman and pregnancy are so different, follow your instinct. And of course, your husband has two hands. If you're feeling particularly generous........... I reccomend giving him some good old fashioned oral pleasure! Now that's true compromise.....

[Joeve]

I haven't dtd since the week before our bfp and I am 21 weeks tomorrow! My poor DH although he is not really wanting to either so I guess I am lucky there is no pressure. Do what feels right for you x