Can Children see Ghosts?

[Blondie]

Sorry if this is in the wrong section!

My Son has randomly started saying "Scary Roof...." and at certain times of the day won't walk into certain parts of the house. This includes walking from his Cot out of his room, he just screams and hides behind his change table until I tell him it's ok and he Mummy will come and get him.

It started happening around 2 weeks ago, and usually this type of behaviour (if attention seeking) will last 1 week max, It just seems really bizarre?

I also noticed that a toy we have will randomly go off without bumping it or anything. It happened in the middle of the night the other week and scared the beejezus out of me. This doesn't bother me as it's such and odd occurance but the "Scary Roof" thing has me a bit puzzled?

[willow5]

I think children can see things a lot of adults can't. Whether or not your little one is seeing a ghost I don't know, hopefully someone else will post that can help you out with it. I hope it doesn't keep worrying him for too long, whatever is going on It would have me wondering too. I'm pretty sure there a a few in here that will be able to help you out more than I can.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Could be an unusual shadow pattern, an area with cold air (eg under loft access area), or some odd-sounding echo.

As it's very particular areas at particular times of the day, I would think it would be a light/shadow pattern he dislikes, thinking he may fall into something or there is a step he can't climb.

FWIW, electronic toys can go off at random times if the child drools enough to mess with the electronics.

[willow5]

Could be an unusual shadow pattern, an area with cold air (eg under loft access area), or some odd-sounding echo.

As it's very particular areas at particular times of the day, I would think it would be a light/shadow pattern he dislikes, thinking he may fall into something or there is a step he can't climb.

FWIW, electronic toys can go off at random times if the child drools enough to mess with the electronics.

Could be a good explanation. Toys can also go off randomly when the batteries are going flat.

[Blondie]

Thanks Ladies, he just said it again, I asked him what was wrong and tell mummy what's on the roof he just continued clinging to my leg saying "Scared" I might see if he will point for me, maybe it's a shadow as was mentioned or maybe even something like the smoke detector with the light in it?

[willow5]

Whe I was little we had a bookshelf that made a shadow on the wall in the lounge room that looked (to me) like the face of a man with a hat on. Used to scare me for a while. I hope you can get to the bottom of it soon

[Netix]

I believe children can see ghosts, or spirits. Like animals, they are more sensitive than adults, especially those adults who are 'detuned' as it were. If you have a cat or dog, watch if they behave oddly, or stare at walls or ceilings, where your DS has been scared.

If it is a spirit, you can ask them to leave the house, this is your space and ask that they respect that. If it is a spirit, they may simply be watching over DS. It would mean no malice.

[Blondie]

Thanks girls, I have narrowed it down to in his bedroom and the immediate hallway out the front of his room. That's where he seems the most scared. He still says he's scared in the living room but I suspect it's because he's usually just come from the bedroom. I feel no malice in any areas of the house, sometimes I feel like I am being watched but that's just my paranoia LOL

[Cass72]

Thanks girls, I have narrowed it down to in his bedroom and the immediate hallway out the front of his room. That's where he seems the most scared. He still says he's scared in the living room but I suspect it's because he's usually just come from the bedroom. I feel no malice in any areas of the house, sometimes I feel like I am being watched but that's just my paranoia LOL

I wholeheartedly believe that children can see things that we can't. If he's scared of a room, then there's a reason for it: whether it's something tangible (such as a toy he doesn't like or a shadow) or something intangible.

I remember being terrified of my Nan's hallway and end room. It wasn't until I was grown up that my mum (and her sisters) fessed up that they also grew up being scared in that house and my Nan has even since said that she didn't like it. Was it because it was dark or was it something else.

Just trust him. Why should our children be scared of something just because mummy or daddy can't see it or understand it. Just because it's not real to us it doesn't mean it's not real to them.

[mrscricket]

I think they can. I was a sceptic/non believer until my grandmother died. She had been sick for quite a while so we knew it was going to happen. I got the phone call on the way to pick up DS. Rang DH and told him and then picked up DS. We didn't mention anything to him because he loved his
'Mar-Mar' as all the kids called her,and we thought he was too young to understand. Anyway that night we read him his story and were saying goodnight, and DS said "Why is Mar-Mar sitting on my bed?" DH and I asked him a few questions and he was pretty calm about it, but adamant that she was sitting on his bed. The next day he was in the lounge room and I walked in, and he was dancing. I said something like "Are you having a dance buddy? There's no music!" and he said "I am dancing with Mar-Mar and the man-man'. (He calls soldiers man-man's). I rang my mum and told her about it later on and she started bawling her eyes out. My grandfather, who was solider in WWII, died of a degenerative illness, and he hated that he couldn't take Grandma out dancing anymore. He would always say to her "One day we will meet in heaven and have that dance". So my family thinks that DS could see Grandma and Grandad dancing

As I said I am/was a total sceptic and if this was someone else's story, I'd very much be "Sure, whatever' but it is absolutely true. There may be some reasoning behind it, like DS hearing more than we thought or picking up on our feelings but it brought a lot of comfort to my mum and her sisters, so I will let them believe whatever they want.

There is also a room at my sisters place he will not go in, and hasn't been in for nearly 3 years. He used to sleep in it all the time, but one night he woke up hysterical saying he could see a lady holding a baby in a basket, and when he screamed she 'went through the window'. I can't not get him in that room, even now. His story about what he saw has never changed, and although it may of been a vivid dream, there is the possibility that he actually saw or felt something.

**I have goosebumps now. Off to put on some loud music

[Blondie]

So true. I fully believe in lingering spirits and ghosts etc and that is why I want to try and understand what my son means. He might be confused or just wanting to know what they want or why there are there, if in fact there is anything there. Being 2 his vocab is not all that flash - understandably

[mrscricket]

Blondie - my sister read something after 'the lady with the red hair' in her spare room incident and I think it was John Edwards that said he believes children can absolutely see stuff we can't because they don't filter it out like adults do.

[Cass72]

Naaaaaw, Mrs Cricket that's just lovely.... to know that your grandparents are together and dancing.

[Blondie]

I think they can. I was a sceptic/non believer until my grandmother died. She had been sick for quite a while so we knew it was going to happen. I got the phone call on the way to pick up DS. Rang DH and told him and then picked up DS. We didn't mention anything to him because he loved his
'Mar-Mar' as all the kids called her,and we thought he was too young to understand. Anyway that night we read him his story and were saying goodnight, and DS said "Why is Mar-Mar sitting on my bed?" DH and I asked him a few questions and he was pretty calm about it, but adamant that she was sitting on his bed. The next day he was in the lounge room and I walked in, and he was dancing. I said something like "Are you having a dance buddy? There's no music!" and he said "I am dancing with Mar-Mar and the man-man'. (He calls soldiers man-man's). I rang my mum and told her about it later on and she started bawling her eyes out. My grandfather, who was solider in WWII, died of a degenerative illness, and he hated that he couldn't take Grandma out dancing anymore. He would always say to her "One day we will meet in heaven and have that dance". So my family thinks that DS could see Grandma and Grandad dancing

As I said I am/was a total sceptic and if this was someone else's story, I'd very much be "Sure, whatever' but it is absolutely true. There may be some reasoning behind it, like DS hearing more than we thought or picking up on our feelings but it brought a lot of comfort to my mum and her sisters, so I will let them believe whatever they want.

There is also a room at my sisters place he will not go in, and hasn't been in for nearly 3 years. He used to sleep in it all the time, but one night he woke up hysterical saying he could see a lady holding a baby in a basket, and when he screamed she 'went through the window'. I can't not get him in that room, even now. His story about what he saw has never changed, and although it may of been a vivid dream, there is the possibility that he actually saw or felt something.

**I have goosebumps now. Off to put on some loud music

Holy moly! that's intense!

[mrscricket]

I know! I seriously would not believe it if he wasn't my own child. He also told me that I had 2 babies in my tummy and they were girls. True. But that was the last 'freaky' thing that has happened. I guess they will be pretty cool stories to tell at his 21st

[willow5]

Mrscricket, that's beautiful, and yes goosebumps too!!

[Blondie]

Wow MrsCricket, that would have been cool. They reckon some people are just in tune to things like that. Maybe your Son has a gift? A masseuse me told me I was pregnant with a Boy and I wasn't even showing

My son wants to call this baby "Peppa Pig" let's hope he isn't physic!

[MLR1901]

My old boss's son was 3. My boss's dad had died many years ago. He lived in another state.
Boss's son Z, commented often that he could see a man and the man often called him son.
Z had no met or seen photos of his grandpa (boss and dad were not talking for many years before his dads death)
Boss, wife and Z went to visit relatives interstate . Did not expect to see a picture of his dad in the hallway of relatives house, Z yells out 'daddy that's the man that calls me son!'
Boss was freaked out to say the least. The house in which they were living was rented on a completely different state, and Z had NEVER met grandfather!
I got goosebumps when my old boss told is that story!