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Oct 2007
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Dd doesn't like learning at school
Hi all
Dd1 started primary school this year and she is very behind in class.
She cannot read even simple sentences and tends to memorise rather than read.
Ive asked her if she is having issues at school and she keeps saying she is still little and learning is too hard.
She is a smart cookie and talks way beyond her age but somehow cannot pick up reading.
For example she will get no and on mixed up. Write her p b ds incorrectly.
At home i try to spend time with her but she doesnt want to concentrate at all.
For example she is reading here comes little chimp, after that i will point to a few words and
She will have issues reading them but her comprehension skills are great ie she knows what the book is about.
I asked her if she is having difficulties reading and her reply was Im little like little chimp i cant read.
I dont know what i should do
Btw her teacher is lovely and she loves her teacher so its not that
Some kids learn differently. And memorising is a completely fine way to learn to read. With DD who I will say was exactly the same I used to get stressed with. Frustrated because she would guess the words and use the pictures. But that's normal! And I can promise you it won't affect her overall reading long term. DD is now well above her age for reading and LOVES reading. She was the same with maths. She needed to memorise her basic additions and subtraction in order to use them then have that epiphany of how it works. What makes them stressed is feeling they don't get it. That they somehow should and don't. Patience is the best gift you can give her. With regards to distraction my DS is like this and only now is starting to find concentration in the classroom easier. Having something in his hand helped him because he is a fidgeted. And even when reading he would practically be climbing all over the place or hopping or something else.
I don't understand why Liebs isn't reading decent-lenght stories. He could do it. But it would put him off if I made him. So the Roald Dahl is waiting, and waiting. I smile while he reads and don't shout "leaf the word is leaf you know the letters how can you not fishing read?". With difficulty, admittedly. And with wine and a happy place. But he likes reading, at least. And is a keen library member.
Sounds like my DS He's also very advanced in some ways but not in reading. He hates those readers, so I just sign the form anyway so he can get his sticker
He likes to try reading random things on packaging and other stuff like that, and practices his writing by writing random, weird stories where everything is spelt wrong (or right, if you ask him, because everyone else is wrong). I just let him go for it.
I'm all for wine and happy places, also.
She is still really young - she is probably one of the youngest in her class. I've taught kindergarten and all the things she is doing are perfectly normal for halfway through her first year. Make it fun and stress free, tell her that trying her best is all you expect and praise every achievement no matter how small.
She sounds pretty similar to lots of the kids in DD1's class last year.
FWIW DD1 was very similar. It was because she wanted to be far more advanced and better than she was at it and so gave up. Bit by bit, but sure enough turns out she's pretty good at it.
For reading I think that the flow of a story is really important. Often by the time they have figured out a word the last word is a minute behind them so I'll often just tell them the word to maintain the flow. I also read the entire page in one hit before I turn the page so that they can hear the whole page flowing.
Different children have different ways of learning and learn at different speeds. It's no biggy if she is a late reader. Keep reading books to her because that way she can still experience age appropriate stories and the joy of reading. Sometimes we would read the same reader a few nights in a row. Learning a book can help boost confidence and IMO one of the big breakthroughs in reading is the confidence to give it a go.
I think reading pictures is reading. It's a whole package. Understanding the story, the pictures, the sequence of events is all vital to reading. The actuals words and letters will come with time. I am shocked 5 year olds are expected to be reading. My younger siblings weren't properly reading until 7 or 8 and it made little impact on their schooling in the long term. She has already learnt so much.
I think you need to make story time fun and relaxing and the go concentration will come.
Do you have the magic 100 words?? I'd start with them.
As for books, talk about the story first, as her what he thinks the book might be about by looking at the front cover, then look at all the pictures, discussing what's going on, then read the book to her, always using the pictures to tell the story
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Came in here ready to offer advice, but you've had so many great suggestions, I don't think you need them!
Just reiterating the 'no pressure' thing. The last thing you want is her resenting you! (save that for her teachers, lol!). Reading the picture cues is an important step in learning to read, as is memorising. So, 'rereading' the same book over and over is great. Read for pleasure with her, get her to repeat after you, pointing to the words as she goes. Model reading in front of her. If she's struggling with lots of words, get easier books so its not so frustrating for either if you. And the pre-reading stuff Olive suggested is great too.
Another thought - has she had her eyesight checked?
Yes they are sight words, you start with the most common and stay on them until you know them all, I think red words is first.
Have you tried reading eggs for her???
Dd doesn't like learning at school
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keep it light and fun and she'll get there!
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