I wasn't sure where to put this, but I think this is about right. Sorry if its not.
Anyway, my 30th birthday is fast approaching. I'm not looking forward to it, for a number of reasons. Mainly all the things I wanted to achieve by 30 that I haven't and won't.
My mother is asking me what I want to do for my 30th and the truth is I have no idea.
My three best friends live interstate and I highly doubt any of them would be able to make any sort of party. Plus I don't drink and tbh, I don't find much joy in watching other people get very much intoxicated. I also only have work collegues which are very much older than myself, there is only one there that really bothers to be interested in my life, even then it doesn't extend past the office though I have made offers and suggestions. I have two more older friends which came about as our children are best friends, so again not overly close. My best friend from high school who again, not overly close to any more, though not for lack of trying. Put it this way we are meant to be best friends, I was the last to be told about her engagement. I have my mother (who really wants me to let her know what I'm doing) and my sister (our relationship is okay, though like all siblings we have love to hate each other sometimes too and grate on one another's nerves). I have nothing to do with my father. My step brother has moved in next door, and it has become very obvious as to how much my Step father just tolerates us for my mother. So I guess in all this its also making it very obvious how alone I feel most days, as I have no one close by to which I can offload and talk to etc either. I have no partner.
Mostly Im okay with this situation, until things like important life events happen to come up and really, I feel like, why bother? What's the point? Can't I just be an ostrich about it all?
So I don't know what to do about the whole turning 30 situation. What would you do for your 30th given the above feelings?
I turned 30 a couple of years ago and I originally really wanted to celebrate and spent ages thinking about what I could do. I hadn't had a baby shower, hens or anything like that. But as we got closer it got harder, all my friends were either heavily pregnant (like myself!) or had newborns, my sister and I weren't getting along either. In the end I just went away for a couple of days with my husband.
I know how it feels when you're under pressure but your heart isn't in it. I hope you have a lovely birthday
I'm 30 this year too, I have the same feelings as you do. We did think about going away - I'd rather be with my family than a big hoo ha tbh. however, im about to go on maternity leave, xmas is around the corner & our anniversary is coming up in the next few months & id rather go away for that lol we will more than likely go out for dinner.
How about a week/end away? A pamper package? Could you try something you've never done before?
Can you skype your besties, and have a virtual party? Could be a laugh ... you could each have some drinks (non alcoholic if that's your preference), something for dinner - you could even watch the same movie at the same time.
A friend of mine live in another country from her bestie, and they skype-movie-date all the time
Personally, I had a karaoke bash. It was worlds of fun - but not the sort of thing everyone gets into
We just did DH's 30th and we went out for brunch. Was cheaper for everyone and much easier than going out to dinner with our 2 kids. I think there was about 25 of us all up including kids. Was lovely, relaxed and kid friendly.
Thank you for the lovely suggestions. I think I might have a look into something either very small ie lunch with the kids and my mum etc, or maybe even that weekend away
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I know how it feels when you're under pressure but your heart isn't in it. I hope you have a lovely birthday
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