birthday invite- WWYD?

[beansbeans!]

This could end up being confusing, I hope not, but apologies if it is.

DD1 is in kindy. One of her best friends is in yr1. I am good friends with this girls mum, lets name her H.
H and I have a great friendship, we hang out most days, talk daily.
This year, there has been this yr1 mum, lets call her W, who is friends with H, who has made it clear she doesnt like me. Even H has noticed that she doesnt like me, for no other apparent reason other than my friendship with H.

About a month ago H tells me about the birthday party that W is planning for her dd in yr1. It had come up in reference to a conversation we had about how busy october was with birthday parties.
Then last sunday H and I were out together, and we ran into W. W starts talking about her dd's party with H, then randomly looks at me and asks if DD got her invite. Thats the first Ive heard about an invite.
Anyhow then on tuesday, her dd gives my dd an invite to her party... Its this saturday! (this was done in front of H and was quite dramaticly delivered)

I dont feel like its a real invite, if that makes sense? The invite and the whole situation doesn't feel good or right to me.

WWYD?

[Teeki]

I don't know... Is your DD friends with W's DD? If so then I'd be thinking the same as you - W didn't want you there but realised you'd find out what's going on so invited her. If they're not friends though, I'd wonder why she was invited. It sounds like you and W aren't friends, so why does she think you'd expect your DD to be invited?

[Kazzo]

If your DD and W DD are not actually friends then I would not go. The awkwardness of it would not be worth it.

[beansbeans!]

Thanks ladies,

I dont know if the girls are friends as such. DD1 never mentions that she plays with this girl, but they do say hello when they see each other (although DD1 does say hello to every single kid that she knows at school, whether she knows their name or not )

You've pretty much affirmed my thoughts xx

[Teeki]

Yeah if they're not actually friends then it's all a bit weird! I'd probably say she can't make it then ignore the whole thing.

[black_rose]

I wouldn't be comfortable going either and would just say that you can't go as you have plans.

[beansbeans!]

Thank you all
I won't be taking dd to it and as it turns out dh is working so I would have to take all three kids too, and there's no way I would feel comfortable dropping dd off and leaving her. Thankfully I think dd ha forgotten about it, though I don't think she really knew about it either haha.
Thank you, school life is a tricky at times!