Hi All,
I wasn't sure what area I should post this in so I'm sorry if I'm in the wrong spot!
I was 12wks on Tuesday with my third preganacy (I have a beautiful, perfect & healthy 23mnths old & m/c in june this yr), yesterday (Wed19th) I had my 12 wk Ultrasound and baby was active and everything fine, when it was almost finished I noticed that they guy doing it (Brendon) was focusing alot on the feet and was poking my tummy to make baby more, I asked if there was a problem and he said I just need to see something.
Ok so I'm not going to write every detail of what happened cause i'd be here forever but the short of it is....Dr came in to have a look and did an internal ultrasound and they have told me that both of my babies legs aren't growing properly and its some sore of bone problem.
The bone from hip to knee is fine and good size but then from knee to feet is too small and baby isn't stretching like it should be, not kicking or anything.
So there conclusion at this stage is that they will not grow in proportion with the rest my baby's body and it will not walk.
Of course at this stage DH and i both broke down (and may i add that i haven't stopped crying since).
They have told me to go back in 3wks when I'm 15wks and they're going to do another heap of scans in hoping that they will see things more clearly as they baby gets bigger, but they're pretty much said thats how it is and now its our decision at to what we do next, they're told us to think about what our thoughts are on special needs babies/children etc.
This is going to be the longest 3wks what of my life, but I just feel so upset and in a way disappointed, obviously not towards my baby, but its just so hard to come to terms with that heartbreaking news, its one of those things that u don't think will ever happen to u.
So sorry its long I just needed to get it off my chest, when i m/c earlier this yr i posted on here and the support i rec'd was amazing and something i will never forget.
If anyone has heard of anything similar to my case I would love the here good or babd.
Thanks everyone for listening.
WBM, Oh you poor thing! What a horrible situation to be in. I am so sorry for you both. I will pray that they are wrong and your next scan will show that everything is ok.
Allow yourself to grieve hun. SN kids although they take a lot of work are so special and they teach us to much about ourselves. Even with all the extra work I would not give up my mildly SN child for the world hun.
Oh WBM - that is really scary and sad for you. It is also a horrible way to find out such news and I am sure the next 3 wks will be hard for you. Did they offer some counselling?
Big hugs and you will get lots of support on here. xxx
I had a similar sort of experience to you. Not with the bone growth worry, but a different kind of scare. But same thing - 12 week scan was where it was discovered and we had to endure 4wks of waiting until a 16wk scan to confirm if something was wrong.
We too were asked to "consider our options" and we were terrified out of our minds.
DH and I spent lots of time talking together, talking with family (sort of) and a lot of time in prayer.
You need to do what works best for you in this situation - we found that a lot of our friends and even some family could not comprehend the decisions we were facing. Invasive tests that run the risk of miscarriage and a life changing decision. What do you do? We found a lot of people just didn't understand.
I know my situation is a little bit different but the waiting is still the same. I found work the hardest - I wasn't too busy and I had a lot of time when I could sit and think. Thinking was bad!
Sending you lots of - and keeping you in my thoughts.
Hang in there as best you can - you never know, the news might not be so bad or maybe things may be treatable. It doesn't have to be the worst case scenario. Hold onto hope xoxoxoxo
I'm glad you came in here for support, its the best place for it
I have just read through each and everyone's replies (actually I've read them through twice)...
And I would like to say a huge thanks you, I know that words can not change the situation i'm in but they do kind of lighten things, all I don't personally know any of u its just beautiful and i thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
It's been the longest and hardest 24hrs of our lives and we both have a feeling deep down inside that its the worst case, mainly because the dr said that there is definately a problem, it wasn't a maybe it was a YES.
DH and I have been discussing it all day and when we go back if the results are still the same we're going to ask to go else where to seek a second opinion, which seems the only hope at the moment.
Although we are preparing ourselves for the worse news possible. Its just so hard and confusing.
I'm sorry to keep going on and saying the same things... i think its shock talking.
thanks everyone again
WBM It is perfectly normal to be in shock. We really dont mid you repeating yourself, I know when I am stressing about something I say it over and over and over (there are a few very similar posts from me around the place )
I know that lots of doctors say there is something definitely going on and then get proven wrong. I have been told that DD2 would do things that she cant, and I have been told that she wouldnt do things that she can. I hope for your sake that bubby's legs are just a little slower to grow - or the scan was wrong, and that your next scan shows normal measurements for that stage of development.
No matter what the outcome, we are all here for you hun. Hang in there.
WBM, I'm so so so sorry that you have to wait like this. And I prey with everything I have that your baby is just fine.
I know that your DOC has said that there is definitely something wrong and I don't want to get your hopes up with what I'm going to share with you but I just thought you might like to hear this. When I went for me morthology scan at 19ish weeks when I was pregnant with DS, every part of him measured only 16 weeks except his head that was a few days over my EDD. We immediately thought the worse and the sonographer and my doc said that there was a good chance that something could be wrong. I had 4 scans all before 12 weeks that all confirmed my EDD. So there was no way the dates were wrong. So of course were so worried, told to go back in 2 weeks. Well that was the longest 2 weeks of my life. Anyway we went back, and thank the lord he was back on track for my original EDD, body and head now measured the correct for dates, head still a little in front but that only because he has a boof head, still does . The sonographer said that he must have just stared a growth spurth and that's why his head was on track but his body 3 weeks behind.
I know this is totally different to your case, but I just wanted to let you know that sometimes, modern intervention can lead to much unnecessary worry. I know there is a very high chance that your baby does have something wrong with his/her legs, but there is also a small chance that he/she doesn't.
I hope you can stay possitive and strong over the next few weeks. And good luck with the next scan. I'll be thinking of you.
WBM - I am thinking of you in this difficult time. Keep coming back to let us know how you're getting on.
Scans and tests so often seem to be the cause of concern, and you're not alone in your experience. Sometimes I think there's a reason we can't see inside our bellies, but I know that anxiety to 'know', so maybe try and let the information you have help you in some way.
At times of stress, I look inside and talk to my baby and ask them what's going on and what I should do. I really hope you and DH find the answer for you.
I am sending you strength to wait out these three weeks.
Hi everyone!
It's been a few days since I've posted and I've just been taking the time to get my head around everything, well try at least.
I think I have gotten over the initial shock and now and just considering every option depending on the outcome of the next ultrasound in 2wks and 1day (not that i'm counting :-P)
And all the words of everyone writing to me has really mad eme think even harder. I have read all of the messages to wonderful husband and he can't believe how lovely complete strangers are, so thank you from him and me.
I just thank god everyday that i have already been blessed with our beautiful son Brock and whatever the outcome is he brightens up our world.
So thanks again and I will update again soon.
xxx
Hi again WBM. I'm glad you're still hanging in there.
Its great to hear you're blessed to have a beautiful son and DH, and this experience will strengthen you as a family. No matter what your decision, you will find lots of support here at BB, so keep posting, and expressing your feelings.
Always remember that your body an amazing miracle-maker (it can grow a baby!) and trust what it is telling you to do...
Oh WBM, im sorry you have to go through this. I cant offer much advice, other than what the others have already said. Please keep us up to date and know that lots of us are thinking of you
WBM I'm so sorry that you are going through this at the moment. I am thinking of you all and that everything is going to work out.
I couldn't imagine the shock and disbelief you and your DH are both in.
WBM, glad you are hanging in there and feeling a bit more positive. I started calling it the TTWW - the terrible/torturous two week wait
One thing I should have mentioned in my orig post was that we were told the same as you - there was "definitely something wrong" with our baby. We were given terrible odds - a one in ten chance that the baby was ok. I looked at it that way, DH looked at it the other way - nine in ten chance the baby was not ok.
Our Obs told us that our measurements/readings were so bad that even if it wasn't what they were suspecting, it would "most likely" be something else just as bad or worse.
And then we were cleared, one by one, of all the terrible nasty things. We are now looking at a small fluid-filled lump on the back of the baby's neck that will probably go away by the time the baby is born. It is nothing.
So we went from 90% chance of something "terrible" (read: life-threatening) to a tiny lump that does no damage at all to growth/development and might not even be there when our princess is born.
What I'm trying to say is never give up hope. Until you have some test results in front of you that tell you what it is, don't focus on what it might be.
Thanks anna, tobyturtle, nurse dan and ocean princess, I must say Ocean princess ur message has really touched me.
Ur message has given me so much hope and made me feel positive...I read ur words to my DH and he got a smile on his face and i could c the hope in his eyes.
He also asked me to pass on a message of all the best to u for the arrival of ur baby and same from me too.
I'm just so anxious to get to the ultrasound.
Next wednesday i have my ob appointment and then the wednesday after is the ultrasound, two wks from today....
thanks everyone again
xxx
I hope the next two weeks go quickly for you and your scan shows a beautifully healthy little munchkin. We'll be thinking of you and DH and sending heaps of good luck vibes your way.
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