Baby Girls Name Vs Husband Cousin

[childondaway]

Good Afternoon To All

My husband and I have been going through baby names and the girls name I really love the most and would like to name our child if we have a girl and finally my husband also likes it, however, he has a cousin who lives in another state and they have a child with that name, we don't see him regularly and they hardly even communicate.

My husband has decided although he likes the name we can't have that name b/c his cousin already has it!!

I reall like it and we never ever see them, should I stand my ground that b/c we live in another state and really aren't that close that if we have a girl we can have that name???

Please help!!!!

Regards,

Childondaway

[feeb]

Its hard I loved a girls name but DH said no as he has a cousin with that name!! I have never met this cousin in 8 years of knowing him and being together!!!

Good luck

[AJC]

I wouldn't have a problem using that name. If you saw them often then I wouldn't but if they are in another state and you rarely see them (and rarely communicate) then I don't see why not. I told DH that the Mummy gets the final say with Bub's name anyway

[Lolli]

Men are funny like that with names, aren't they? My dh was the same with the name I liked, he had a mate who's little boy had that name.

Good luck trying to change his mind hun.

[Becky29]

My husband and I have lots of girls names in mind and there is one in particular that I really love. A couple of weeks ago I found out my cousin who I haven't seen in 20 years just had a little girl and has given her that name. I still have this name on my list as I love it so much and we never see my cousin anyway. I recon go for it!

[Macca79]

Names are names and if you really like it stand your ground. Point out to DH that it's unlikely his cousin will make a scene over it. And if he/she does then it's there problem to get over.

[Floweryfields]

Try working with children for 10+ years! Not alot of names left on the list for one reason or another.

[childondaway]

Thanks Ausgirl. I agree. Until recently, I worked in childcare, it was good b/c you came across some usual and not so usual names, but also very confusing b/c there are so many!

[Arimeh]

I say do it.

Won't be the only person you see with that name, so what's the difference?

[Livinthedream]

At the end of the day, its you and hubby who have to live with this name for the rest of your lives. We had the same problem (discarded names for various reasons) but eventually we just settled on the name we liked and bugga everyone else

[mrscricket]

Go for it! I have two cousins that have little boys with the same name born very close together. One was always going to have it, the other picked it without knowing and just loved it. We all don't see each other often so it's not strange - if anything the family will talk about them in the terms of Beth's Cooper or Soph's Cooper if anyone is confused. It's also helpful for our elderly gramdma who has a terrible time remembering our names at the best of times

My sister has a daughter called Maddison and I see her everyday but I also have the name Addison on my list if we ever have another. I just love the name and my sister is fine with it.

[Arimeh]

but I also have the name Addison on my list if we ever have another. I just love the name and my sister is fine with it.

Addison (Addisyn) is a GREAT name

[Jas]

I think go for it. Whatever name you pick it is unlikely he or she will never meet someone else with the same name and seeing that you are distant from one another I say why not!

[~ Mylitta ~]

I have a cousin with a son called Sage, and I really love the name. I've only ever seen the kid once when he was a baby (he's probably about 8 now I'm guessing) so I would probably be happy to use the name even though she "had it first". Unfortunately I know that my DH wouldn't like the name so it's off the list for this bubba if it's a boy.

[Glamourcide]

I think considering how little contact you and your husband have with this cousin, it would be perfectly fine to use the name if you like it!! I'm having a bit of trouble with my mother atm because my husband and I have picked the name for DD2 (due in May) and it just so happens that the middle name we've chosen is the name of my mum's niece or cousin (I think it's her niece, my cousin, I'm confused haha), who she never had a good relationship with and hasn't spoken to in well over a decade. She's miffed because 'Oh that name will always remind me of my dead**** niece' but my husband and I like it and we're sticking with it, no matter what.

Maybe you could try it as a middle name instead, if that makes DH more comfortable with the idea?
I think at the end of the day, the name you choose will become your child's name and theirs alone, you and DH won't be reminded of relatives or people who have the same name because every time you hear the name, you will think of bub. I know this is true because my daughter shares a name with a girl I went to school with who was a real bully and made me miserable, but I never, ever think of her at all when I hear DD's name - it's all hers now.

[mrsmac]

My aunty named my cousin the same name as my brother (David) she did ask mum first though, we just used to call them little david and big David.
My 2nd DD has the same name as my cousin who I ma quite close to, she didn't mind at all was rather flattered actually.

[Shades]

I have a cousin Tim and an Uncle Tim - no big deal... Now - if I wanted to call a little girl Rylee (which I really like) I couldn't because I live with my mum and 7yr old brother called Riley! So it depends on the circumstances...

[LimeSlice]

I have to say I wouldnt use it either.
My mum had my sister Samantha and then about 9months later, my aunt had he son Sam....It never did sit right with Mum and I can see why. But then again we saw them often
I was supposed to be a Louise but as my father had a cousin (a long distant never see sought of cousin) he wouldnt let mum use it lol And I am glad...there is a lot to be said for being uniquley named in a family. Then you arent just "Jane's Ellie" or "John's Ellie" you are just Ellie. iykwim.