I just had my booking in appointment at Monash Clayton and the midwife was astounded that I haven't received more stringent care due to my history of multiple miscarriages...
She has put me into the highest care category that the hospital gives and I have to have weekly appointments...
My anxiety is reaching fever pitch because I just don't know what this means!
I feel really alone, unsure and overwhelmed.
I know it's good that I am getting the best care but prior to this I was doing shared care with my GP and OB monthly, having what I thought was a fairly normal pregnancy...
I stopped counting at about 12. All early losses.
No one has ever taken it seriously - despite how many doctors I have seen and how much I have demanded tests...
My last miscarriage was a missed miscarriage discovered at 9 weeks and ended in a D&C. I fell pregnant during the 6 week recovery - we only DTD once and we're avoiding the possibility of pregnancy, go figure! My doctor now was going to send me for tests after my missed miscarriage but when we found out I was pregnant again, we waited to see what would happen...
I would think that the mw is just being extra cautious. Your doc probably didn't worry about this as your m/c were all early. Personally, I think you should try not to stress to much (I know easier said then done) and just accept the extra monitoring as meaning you are going to be cared for extra well. I am sure that the midwife didn't mean to alarm you, she just wants to make sure you get the best of care so you and you bub have the happiest healthiest journey you can.
I think the thing I am struggling with is just not knowing how this is going to affect me and the baby and the pregnancy and I have to wait till next week to get any answers...
I also gained 6 kilos in 2 weeks which had me really worried until I realised I couldn't make a fist or flex my foot up and down... So I have a lot of fluid retention!
She also made a point that my bmi was high - like I didn't already know that but she made it sound like it was the worst thing on earth - I know it isn't good but I KNOW I am not the only over weight perosn in the world!!
I think your midwife is finally giving you the extra care that you should have been given earlier. You have experienced many losses, and it sounds like these were not properly recognised or given proper attention.
This pregnancy sounds like it is going great. As long as you are happy with the extra monitoring, i would go along with the midwife's recommendation.
Not sure which parts of the forum you post in, but you might find some support from women who have 'been there done that', in Pregnancy after Miscarriage or loss section.
I think one of the hardest things to cope with was for so long every medical professional I have seen has been so blase about my losses, so that I had become *it's just one of those things*... Then suddenly someone was appalled and making them sound like this super serious issue - that it was a big shock emotionally..
Bec, I'm really sorry I feel so thoughtless I didn't realise you had so many m/c's
I can understand why the hospital has put you high risk now, but they should have explained what it means and why, ect.
For me, being high risk, means more appts and also more tests to see whats going on. They want to see if an infection is causing my troubles or whether it's just one of those things.
There are some things that your GP could probably do, if you want you could ask about doing shared care so you aren't travelling to the hospital all the time.
Bec, I had no idea you'd had so many m/c either!! I'm astounded!! Maybe this mw is finally giving you the care you needed to begin with!
You're 18 weeks now and in the "no worries" second trimester. I know that doesn't guarantee anything, but you're certainly a long way down the road now!!
See because everyone had been so blase about the losses, I just shrugged it off as no big deal. I would grieve silently and deal with it on my own...
So to hear you both astounded at my history makes me surprised because for so long, it's just been like a "sinus issue"...
I am glad someone is taking it seriously but for me it's going to take a while to accept it is a big thing...
i agree with the others who've said that it sounds like finally someone is taking the time to care as much as they should about your losses, albeit in a way that means you have to almost deal with them all over again.
i think what i find hard to deal with is medical professionals who seem to have no idea of the impact of what they say - something to them that might be a throwaway line/something totally normal to say can send us into a panic.
with your bmi - when i was referred to monash because of my bmi, i felt like i was the worst mother in the world & i was only 11 weeks pg! i felt like i had failed before i had even started so you're definitely not alone! but so far no one at monash has weighed me, let alone mentioned my weight/bmi so i'm sad to hear someone gave you a hard time. one of my friends went to monash & she had great midwives except for one - so maybe it's the same one
Sloane - Thank You. SO much. That is how I have been feeling about my BMI...
Hehehehe - maybe it is the same one!
I think if it is mentioned again next week I will say something about how it is making me feel...
It is like having to go through it all again. But in a much bigger way - I don't know that I can explain it but it's so raw...
Thank you again...
Evie - I do have my DS and I do want to make sure I have my new bundle so I am glad to get the care. Still a little overwhelming - I'm still in the headspace of being normal! I guess I just have to come to grips that this is normal for me...
This is true...
After I posted that, I sat here and tried to describe normal to my mum...
I failed dismally!
I am feeling much better about my normality now though...
Although I have had zero appetite(sp) today.
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High Risk due to number of miscarriages
I didn't realise you had so many m/c's
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