No Jennifer, you don't sound horrible.

I really appreciate everyones comments and I would like to be able to speak to my SIL regarding my concerns but when I said I don't have a very good relationship with her, I was being polite! We don't talk, have never spoken (I have been with my DH for close to 9 years). There was a 'situation' even before I came on the scene and it has never been like a normal SIL/BIL etc situation/interaction. So any comments that I may make to her will be treated with hostility and a possibility of violence (no I'm not kidding!!!).

My MIL and I think alike though and hopefully she will have some more luck (she has the same concerns as I).