I don't really have advise, though I do have a nephew with high functioning autism, he is very full on but is quiet easy to calm down once you show interests in the things his interested in.
I'm not sure his been to sleep overs so I can't say.
But huge hugs to your dd!! I don't think you have to explain it to her, I think you need to explain it to the other parents so they aren't oblivious to the fact your dd is being isolated for being a little bit more hands on, she deserves the same as everyone else, I think also alot of parents are the ones dictating who their child chooses to bring home , sad very sad I know, but I too would try and bring a greater understanding to the school and the parents to show she is just as lovable if not more...
Huge hugs..


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