Ok, I will give a quick run down of things to date for those of you who might not know our story.

My oldest Evan, is 10. From about the age of 3 he has displayed high anxiety & obssessive behaviours. As he got older & started school things became more intense. After many many appointments with psychs, speech, OT, counsellors etc, He was Diagnosed with Aspergers & SPD last year.

The last five or so years have been filled with meltdowns, anxiety, sleepless nights & lots of tears.
The onset of term 3 brought with it a massive regression in his behaviour at school which resulted in a unofficial suspension & a duel enrolment with distance education. He now does 2 days at home & 3 at school. When he is at school he has a full time aide by his side & only spends about 30% of the day in the class room.

We started him on Lovan at the end of term 1.

School tells me he is classic ADHD & not Aspergers. OT does not agree, nor do I.

our pead referred us to the child psychiatrist with child youth mental health, who we saw on thursday. I was really hoping this guy would have some answers. Would take the time to really explore our situation. But instead he handed me a bit of paper with classroom observations on it & said he agrees that he is classic ADHD.
I am beyond frustrated. YES he displays ADHD behaviour but I dont believe its because he has ADHD. I think the behaviour is avoidance, anxiety & sensory based. But he didn't even look at the previous evidence that shows this or even talk to Evan at the appointment. Simply took this single sheet of paper & ran with it. My problem with this is this is only a picture of him in one situation. A situation he finds extremely stressful.

The plan is to increase the lovan & see how that goes while getting a blood test to check his metabolism for when we put him on Strettera (for ADHD). I don't plan to put him on this medication. I don't think its the right thing for him. The team at CYMH will also scrap everything we have done & start the assessment process all over again. Something I have spent the last 5 years doing, following my gut. All for nothing.
My biggest concern he is getting more aggressive again ( was this way around age 7 also) & I am sporting a lovely bruised forearm from him biting me on Tuesday night. We need help & answers now. But re assessing everything is going to take who knows how long. I dont feel like I can keep up with this anymore. Its destroying me as a mother, as a person. I am physically & emotionally abused by my 10 yr old son daily.

We don't have much option up here in Cairns to go private. Everything I have done the last 18 months has been privately but he simply don't have anyone here who knows enough about ASD. I will go south if we need too but obviously with 5 kids its not as easy done as it is said.

What would you do?