Look Matilda wouldn't go near a toilet until she was 3. Than in a few day she picked it up, than again 5 months later she started doing poos. She would hold it at Montessori where they had to use the toilet and then once home she would ask for a nappy for a poo and do it in there. Total control, but unable to cope with the toilet.

I have no answers, but I wish now that I hadn't stressed so much about it with her. I wish I had just tried every few weeks and if it didn't work, than to move on.

Matilda is 4 1/2 and still has accidents, and still asks for a reward every time she does a poo.