My DS goes to daycare, and i showed them how he eats lunch on a visit, they were quite suprised at how well he could feed himself at almost 8mths - they were happy to try BLS - esp as DS wouldn't eat mush/off a spoon until he was about 10mths old. We did go through a phase of him getting toast at every meal though as they thought the big kid food was too tricky. Now he eats everything with the bigger kids, including fried rice with his hands lol. They all comment how well he eats. As long as you are happy with DD getting some mush I wouldnt worry about it - and try to ask her carer what she would be comfortable with as finger food and start there - once she sees how competent BLS babies are maybe she will start to offer a wider variety