Well, husband and I have picked name for daughter #2 (due in late May), and I knew I shouldn't have opened my mouth to my mother, but I did.
(Long story short, with our first daughter she essentially forced us to pick a name as soon as we knew what we were having because she started patting my belly and calling it 'Erin' or 'Isabelle', names that she likes that we just didn't, so we sat down and chose a name just to shut her up.)
Anyway, we came down to 'Hayley Nicole' or 'Hayley Blair' (I'm a Gossip Girl fan and B is my absolute favourite), but I like Hayley Nicole better because our last name starts with an 'R' and I hate names that kind of run together (ie I don't want the last letter of her middle name to be 'r'), and because Hayley Nicole has the same amount of syllables as our first daughter's name.
However, when I told mum that we'd picked Hayley Nicole, she was quite miffed because she has a cousin named Nicole who is, basically, a complete deads*** (drug addict, a real bogan, has kids to as many different men, just basically ugh). Thing is, she hasn't seen or spoken to this Nicole in years and years and I don't see why she would be 'reminded' of her cousin every time she thinks of my daughter. I mean, we picked Emily for our first daughter even though I went to school with a girl named Emily who was a real cow and stole my boyfriend and was horrible to me, but I never, ever think of her when I think of my daughter's name - Emily is all hers now and the mean girl from school doesn't even enter my head.
So, I'm just wondering if I should try and make my mum happy by changing back to Hayley Blair, despite the fact that I think it's really unfair of her to basically throw a little tantrum like this over something so stupid, when it's MY daughter, and MY choice.
I just don't know whether to stick with a name I prefer, and perhaps forever have my mother wrinkling her nose in disgust every time she says the word 'Nicole' out loud, or give in and then give my daughter a name I'm just not that keen on.
That is exactly right she is YOUR child and this is YOUR choice (and dps hehe), we have done the same mistake and told mum about names we're thinking of! and now we are keeping zip and not saying anything untill bub is born...
Ignore your mum. LOL! As if she is going to say her middle name all the time anyway! It's your choice, your child, and you need to choose a name that you like. Just because they might share a name (a middle name at that, not even used often anyway!) doesn't make them connected at all. Geez, just tell her to think of Nicole Kidman instead!
Tell her to mind her own business. She's had her time and got to name her own kids. This is your child and it has nothing to do with her what you name her!
I think it's a beautiful name btw.
It's your bub, name her what ever you like.
Please don't change it from something you love just to placate your mother. It's not her choice. And if your not reminded of the Bogan Nicole everytime you say it, then there is no point in changing it.
My MIL hated the name we picked out (Claire Ivy) becuase there was a girl back in highschool named Claire who used to tease her, and that she'd always be thinking about it and that i should pick something else. Basically i looked at her and said "uhm, how about no. I love the name, and i'm not going to be reminded of that chick"
It's your baby and your decision. It irritates me so much that people make negative comments or try and suggest other names or change your mind about your own babies name. I understand not wanting names that run together as we are having the same problem ourselves at the moment. (One of the names on our list ends in M and the middle name starts with an M - it just doesn't sound right!)
Do what makes you happy. Your mother will get over it eventually and her name will be Hayley not Nicole so there is no reason for her to think of her cousin really.
NO WAY! This is YOUR child NOT hers'!
Pick the name you like and stick with it.
Our son's name is Lachlan Mackenzie Moshe and DH's parents weren't keen on it when we announced his name at the hospital after the birth and kept asking why we chose scottish names when we were Jewish.
In the end, name your child what YOU like, you'll be the one writing, saying, associating with it more often! Good Luck!
Should I change this to suit my mother?
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