Thanks to all your awesome responses!

Trish - I might look into a hammock, I will try anything at this point

Mylitta - I too love the cuddle time and as he is my last I particularly enjoy the cuddles. I think that is part of the problem - I dont want to put him down. But really, when he can't sleep anywhere else its just too much even for me. He screams his head off in the car which is the one place I cannot pick him up . It is quite dangerous and heartbreaking. Even if I am in the backseat with him he is not content unless I am holding him. Then I will nurse him back to sleep and we can hit the road again. I am becoming a bit of a hermit as a result .