Ok I am really struggling with my DD's behaviour at the moment, most of the time she is the most gorgeous, funny, witty, clever little girl- then without warning Torando Tori appears and she is almost impossible to deal with.
Most of our issues are about her hitting, yelling at,snatching toys, laying on top of (anything that will be annoying), her 6 month old brother. I know most of it is about being 2 and finding her independence, but her poor little brother has to suffer through it. I always give a warning about her behaviour and try to distract, if she continues I use time out, but she thinks this is a huge joke and laughs at me. Recently she has started spitting, so when she gets into trouble she spits at us .
I have tried ignoring her behaviour and dealing with her upset brother, but that makes things worse. I have tried warning about the behaviour and then distracting with a game together, sometimes it works, other times she gets cross because DS comes over to investigate.
I think things have gotten a bit worse recently because DS has started crawling, and I am wondering if she feels like her space is being invaded, and also some of her toys have to stay away until he is sleeping otherwise he tries to eat the pieces.
I dont believe in smacking, I can hardly tell her not to hit her brother and then smack her, I also dont think putting her in her room is a solution, because I dont want her room to be somewhere she associates with being in trouble.

Any ideas how I can get her to understand that being in trouble is not funny? What are some other toddler friendly disciplines?

I am going out today to get Pinky Mckays Toddler Tactics, maybe I will find some ideas in there.