How long did it take for you to feel back to 'normal' after your 2nd child?

[LoveKnowsNoBounds]

How long did it take before you felt relatively 'normal' after you had your second child? And how old was your first when you had your second? I'm trying to work out when to have our second and am in two minds about hitting them up kind of close together (starting TTC when DS is 2, he's now 13 months) or starting to TTC when he is 3 and working part time for a year in between. What did you do and do you think it worked out well for you? Thanks!!!

[visitor1]

I felt fantastic after my 1st bub...and she was a few days under 11 months old when our 2nd child was born. DD1 was around 5 weeks old when i fell pg with DD2.

I think you need to do what works best for you and your family. For us i wasnt working and we have a home business so i had alot of help from DH as he was home 24/7. We have no family or friends for support however. My DH has since gone back to FT work when DD2 was 3 months old and thats when i went ARGH....but we worked out a routine and now i feel great.

Now pg with #3 and DH is about to give up FT work again and come back home...so again, its worked for us!

For us there was no question of waiting for #2....she was 110% planned.

DD1 will be 25/26 months and DD2 will be 14/15 months when #3 comes along..and thats a great age gap that works well in our family.

[Antheia]

We started TTC #2 when DD was 7.5 months old, fell pregnant when she was 13 months old. So they are 22 months apart. I love that age gap and it works great for us. I felt absolutely fab after #2 was born. I was back on my feet straight away and didn't even feel like i'd just had a baby.

[~Saram~]

We had #2 when DS was 4 and I love this age gap, he is independant enough so that we can have individual time with both of them. He went to pre-prep when Ari was born so I had a couple of days a week where it was just the two of us and DS is great friends with his little sister they have barrels of fun together and he loves helping out with Ari.

Having two does take slightly more organisation but on the other hand they keep each other amused :-)

[sangie]

Hi Jan!
Well obviously I can't tell you how I feel after number 2 yet LOL
But we are going to aim for #2 to arrive when DD is 2.5-3 years old (so starting TTC early next year and hope my body cooperates!). It will be roughly the same age gap between myself and my brother and we have always been super close. I am really enjoying working part time as well and want to continue for another year or so and also we want to be settled into a new house before #2 arrives. So it is different for everyone but I guess just go with your gut feeling hun and it will all be so wonderful no matter when your new addition arrives!

[Visitor7]

DD1 was 12 months old when I fell pg with DD2 (not exactly planned though). But I love the age gap, which is 21 months. I had a great labour second time round, and recovered really quickly, so felt normal pretty much straight away. I only spent one night in hospital, as I was keen to get home and get things back to normal.