Cant let go......

[boomba]

I think DS1 is ready to go to kindy, but I dont want him to go

Everyone I know has their kids in some sort of childcare except me, and i am feeling the pressure to send him I would much prefer to have a mothers group....but have never had one I dont want to start my own cause I am always the organiser of everything and dont want to be stressed organising that too


How do you let go and just let them go and not worry they will be sad, or be treated badly. the thing that does not sit well with me is my child screaming for me and me walking away and leaving him with a stranger and being told it will hurt you more than him

I know he is ready he keeps asking to go and I know he probably would not cry, but I still can not let go

[Arimeh]

Aww honey

I hate to say it but he will be going to kindy next year won't he? Then prep the year after? As hard as it is for us to not worry about them, you gotta let them go and spread their wings! I'm not saying you should put him in care now, but that he will be going next year and it might be hard for him then cos he's never been seperated from you?

I'd give it a try and if it's too hard, maybe family day care or something instead? Start with a couple if hours and ease yourself into it. From what I've seen of your little man, he's pretty independent and confident (thanks to you!) so I think he would do just fine. Xxx

[~clover~]

I just started DS. We are both having a hard time, but he stops crying before I do!
I seriously don't see why he has to be away from me... He doesn't really need school... does he?
I had no problems with the girls!!

[Asparagus and Lemons]

Im not there yet, but can understand not wanting to let your little one go, I dont even like leaving her for an hour with someone I trust to do the shopping!
Just remember they are childcare proffesionals, and they have rules and regulations in place to keep kids happy and safe.
BIG HUGS!

[Beach Mama]

Look at LOTS of places and find one that you are really comfortable with! The place that I chose for mine when they started were SO reassuring, J would cry and cry when I left it and it broke my heart but they reassured me that they would not let him get too distressed and if he was they would call me. In their words "we don't want a distressed child any more than you do so we WILL call you" I called them as it turned out, only 5 minutes later and he had stopped crying and was eating toast and didn't cry again for the rest of the day. Kids really are resilient and most places these days do a wonderful job of caring for our kids when we aren't there. I too think it is good to get them accustomed to being away from you before school 9-330 5 days a week is a big jump from being home all day every day with you and a caring centre and kinder is the perfect place to start.

[MrsBexie]

aww sweets I am not there yet either but I can definitely see how hard it would be to let them go!!
He will be well looked after, but don't do it just because you feel pressured to do it, you have to be ready and completely comfortable!! Look around, and don't put him somewhere until you feel good about it.

xx

[tellytubby]

Oh Boomba
Wish we lived close by, you could join my group of extremely relaxed mothers. I think you'd fit it perfectly

I'm not looking forward to the day my DD goes to kindy either
She is like your DS, always asking when she will be going to school. The other day I told her when she goes to school, I'll be sad and miss her lots. Her response, "and I'll say, Its okay mummy, I'm just going to school!" heehee. When they're ready, they're ready! If you decide to go through with it, make sure you're both comfortable. Find one perfect for you both! Don't feel pressured to do what others are doing, you are his mother, do what you want, and what you feel is best.
xo