Can't stand the smacking anymore, how do I stop it?
Does anyone have any ideas how on earth I can get Juliette to stop smacking? She does it when she's frustrated or cranky, but sometimes I think she just does it for a reaction. I've tried everything I can think of... I have ignored it but she keeps going if she's in a tantrum. I have made her sit down for a minute, put her in her cot for a minute. Held her hands, now she tries to kick or head butt when I do that. I even resorted to tapping her hand back (which I'm not happy about, I smacked her to teach her not to smack, really smart ). That got the response of her walking around smacking her own hand really hard for the next half an hour I've yelled, I've calmly explained, I've done everything I know but still she keeps doing it. I have found though that it's only ever me or Zander, I haven't picked up on her smacking anyone else yet.
I had this happening with Emily for about 6 or so months. It's only stopped in the last month. I, like you, tried EVERYTHING! She would even walk around smacking her own hand LOL. No advice really, because I'm not really sure why she stopped, but I have ignored it for a while now. Good luck with it.
We found the best way to get Pip to stop biting other kids was to draw something up on the whiteboard at the start of each day, eg a picture of a train. And if it was still there when I got home from work / we picked him up from CC, he'd be allowed to play with trains that night. So sorta reverse star chart IYKWIM? Not taking something off him per se, but taking away something he wanted and could visualise ...
DD2 is 3 and went through a stage of smacking over the last year. When she smacked me I would say "Ouch J! That really hurt!, please do not smack" If she did it again, I would make her sit down for a minute or 30 seconds or so, and say "If you need to smack, you need to stay away from everyone until you can stop".
Unfortunately, we have her older sister over the past year lose it heaps and hit, bite and scratch us so much that DD2 has learnt it from her as a manner of releasing frustration. I have found the "sit down" or you will have to go to your room until you can stop hitting us approach the best one for us.
Amazingly, I have found something that worked for us.
I just told ds "that's not nice." I also point out that he's a nice boy and I don't play with people who aren't nice.
Tonight, I was playing with DS and did a little play-nibble on his tummy. "No, mammy, not nice." He kept on with "not nice" a few times until I apologised. HE then goes on that he doesn't like not-nice and that we should play nice and not bite.
Christy that was the main approach we've tried & she just rolls around on the floor until she can get up & then half the time she'll look right at me, smile & do it again. Arrrrgh! Boundary testing I know, but gosh it's frustrating.
Can't stand the smacking anymore, how do I stop it?
). That got the response of her walking around smacking her own hand really hard for the next half an hour
I've yelled, I've calmly explained, I've done everything I know but still she keeps doing it. I have found though that it's only ever me or Zander, I haven't picked up on her smacking anyone else yet.
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