Looking for some help here. DD (who is 12 weeks) has the habit of fighting sleep and only wanting to fall asleep on the breast. It is becoming so frustrating and exhausting. I would like to get her into some form of routine for her sake and for mine.

After her feed and some play time, I look out for her tired signs and attempt to get her off to sleep. The only way I seem to be able to get her to sleep is on the breast, but this does not always work and of an evening can take over 3 hours! She will fall asleep for short stints and then wake very upset. He day naps rarely last longer than 45 minutes. Luckily when we do finally get her down for the night she will sleep through to anywhere from 6.00am to 8.00am.

Currently I wrap her with one arm out so she can find her thumb. I have tried a dummy, but she will not take it (she has done some very impressive dummy spits!). Sometimes she will suck my finger. So obviously she likes to suckle to go to sleep.

The MCHN shows us a way to jiggle the bassinet and to "shush". This worked for her and only couple of times for us. We have tried holding her and patting her back/bum and shushing. Sometimes DH can get her off to sleep by rocking her when she is really exhausted Most of the time any attempt to get her to sleep just makes her hysterical.

A bit of history - I did have a lot of trouble initially with BF, she was a lazy feeder and a bit small for me. DD started to lose weight. I had to end up expressing to increase my supply and comping. I finally managed to her my supply up and was fully BF at about 8 weeks. I think what happened was I was too afraid to refuse DD the breast. Before I realised what was happening she had become used to this habit.

So only advice on how to get her off the breast to go to sleep and on how I can get her to nap longer than 45 minutes during the day.

Thanks for any help - Astrid