Ears that stick out???

[Epacris]

DDs ears stick out. If you put your fingers behind them and try to push them forward, you can't, they are at permanent right angles to her head... and she is almost totally bald. DH doesn't like her sticky-outie ears at all, he is sort of paranoid/obsessed about them, I think they're cute and I'm not at all worried. He wants them pinned back ASAP, I think he's being completely, utterly ridiculous. When we saw the pediatrician for her four week check I asked him about them and he suggested we wait until she has hair before making any decisions.

Any comments? Anyone been through this? Am I being ridiculous or is my DH?

ETA: my ticker photo doesn't really capture her in full ear sticking glory, I'll see if I can change it to a more recent one.
ETA: changed the pic, this is the best eary one I could find.

[Trillian]

I have seem some babies with real wing nuts and she really doesn't look that bad. She will look different once she has hair though and you wont notice it as much. Plus once she grows into herself they might not look like they stick out at all.

[tan32]

We took Lachlan to the pediatrician at a few months of age as one of his ears has very minimal cartilage so it flaps around everywhere, his ear also did not have any shape to it (the lobe was actually just flat no ridge on top)
His recommendation was to leave it for now and see how it goes, his ear now has shape but it still has no hard cartilage in it. So his ear either sticks right out or gets curled up.
Lachlan has a fair bit of hair , basically we where told to leave it till he was older.

[Arimeh]

My DD has sticky out ears too.

I'm just waiting for her to grow hair so we can cover them up. If you are looking at her, you can see the sun shining through her ears.. LOL

[sazzafrazz]

My DD has sticky out ears too.

I'm just waiting for her to grow hair so we can cover them up. If you are looking at her, you can see the sun shining through her ears.. LOL

My DD has one ear a lot more sticky-outy than the other but I have noticed the gorgeous golden glow of sun beaming through hers also. They are a little bit pointy on top too

I love them. I never noticed my dad has them too till someone pointed out that she has his ears. She has hair, not enough to cover them up but enough to disguise them and no-one has mentioned them in months now. I couldnt care less and wont do anything unless she starts asking for it in school. They are lovely and I like to kiss them (and if I'm honest, I give them a little suck every now and again if I can )

[Tannis]

Both my babies have sticky out ears, Jayden has kinda grown into his now but they still stick out a little, but Ashlea's are still out there. I used to put headbands on her when she was younger, not only to keep her ears back but because they looked gorgeous on her. I wouldn't worry about, your DD is still absolutely gorgeous!

[beckoes]

we joke that the only bit of DD that looks like daddy are the big ears, although they arnt really sticking out much.
My sister always had rather prominent ears when she was a baby, now she is 13, has beautifull ears and is gorgeous, although she doesnt wear her hair pulled back to tight or they do look a little large still!! like everyone else said, leave it till she is older, and my mum always made sure no one mentioned the ears to my sister, the worst thing that could have happened was for her to become consious of them as she grew up!! then it WOULD have been an issue!

[Nai]

I think they look like she will grow into them as they aren't too sticky outy. My cousin had ears that stuck out and so did his daughter - they both got them pinned back when she was 16.

[Phteven]

I was looking at your ticker just a day ago thinking that she was utterly gorgeous. I don't think you need to worry about her ears now. Wait until she's older and has some hair before doing something so drastic.
One of my friends was the same as your DH. She always had hats and beanies on her daughter to cover her ears and make them sit flat. Now she's a gorgeous little girl and TBH I haven't ever noticed her ears and I doubt I ever would have if her mother hadn't mentioned them.

ETA - LOL at wingnuts. I haven't heard that in years. No, they're definitely not wingnuts.

[Trillian]

LOL Dach, it's a family trait on my Dads side to have humungous ears that stick way out and it's always one of the first things Nan ever asked about the new babies in the family ROFL - "does he/she have the ears?"

[Michelle71]

LOL Dach, it's a family trait on my Dads side to have humungous ears that stick way out and it's always one of the first things Nan ever asked about the new babies in the family ROFL - "does he/she have the ears?"

Same in my family - and DS has them I think they are cute and the men in my family with the ears are gorgeous men who grow into them beautifully.

[SunnyRain]

Honestly, I think she looks gorgeous and they're just ears. Ear pinning is plastic surgery, remember, would you get her nose sculpted if it was a bit big?

I personally think it's the quirks that make us interesting. Think about Jennifer grey (dirty dancing). She had plastic surgery on her nose and lost what made her stand out in Hollywood. She says she has regretted it ever since.


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[Mum2twoBoys]

my dh has sticky out ears as a kid, really bad, thought my son might get them but they dont stick out anywhere near as much as his dads. but my dh has grown into them and i dont think they look that big or stick out. his brother still goes on about them but hey i think they have to pick at something. but they were definately worse when he was a kid. and he has a crew cut now. so dont despair. she is still young enough for things to change a lot.

on another note i think she is absolutely gorgeous and that they add to her character. honestly they arent that bad. she is a little cutey and looks like a happy child so why change that. wait until she decides what she wants done.

[Jennifer13]

Epacris, your DH needs to get over the idea that she doesn't look as good as she should. She's a wonderful little girl and her appearance (which is completely adorable, not that that's the point) is only part of the package.

Does he really think he's gotten to where he is today because of his dashing good looks? Or that he was held back in life somehow because of the way he looked?

Teaching any child, particularly a girl in our society, that they should be concerned about something that is a natural feature (and not in any way impeding them physically) at such a young age has much bigger repercussions than what a few shallow children in the school ground tease her about! And btw, i think your DD is pretty self-assured and sociable and can't see her being picked on any more than the kid whose ears are any different.

And I would also tell him not to talk about her like this when she's around. She's a smart kid and she'll know Daddy thinks her ears don't look 'perfect' (even though they're perfect for her).

For some reason my DP has this thing about whether our next DD won't look as 'pretty' as DD1. Maybe it's a male thing, wanting his daughter to have an easy time and seeing appearance as something that helps that?

[Rouge]

Awesome post Jen.

[Epacris]

Thank you all so much for your extremely well considered replies. You have given me lots to think about and talk about with DH.

Charlotte- I know exactly what you mean about her head growing into her ears. I look at baby photos of me and my ears were huge compared to the size of my head. My ears are still large but they fit my head much better now. Mine don’t stick out as much as her’s do though.

Onyx – Thanks.

Heaven – She is such an imp, so yes, I think they suit her too.

L&B – I don’t know if DH was bullied as a child. I assume not, but maybe I should specifically ask him and ask if anything he has experienced is clouding his judgement about DD’s ears. I too don’t have any problems with cosmetic correction. If it was a prominent, unusual/abnormal mark or growth I think that would be different. But they’re her ears and IMO they still well within the realms of normal. She definitely doesn’t have a problem with them at all, she is totally unaware of them being anything other than just her ears. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Nickel – thanks for that suggestion. I think we’ll start with our GP (who is also a paediatrician). DD has her 3 year bluebook check coming up soon. I’m sure we’ll all be able to have a good chat about the whole thing.

Nai – Yes, I totally agree, what if she thinks we took it upon ourselves to change her character (and not for the better). And I totally agree with your outlook on parenting too, but there just seems to be something about DH wanting to “protect” DD. I actually think our DS1 is more emotionally fragile and that he is more in need of our protection and refuge. DD can more than hold her own with anyone.

Aligater – Thanks. But Hmmm.... I think bullies have their own issues (that also need addressing) don’t they. Life can be a hard road for bullies (and their parents) too.

Kuraiza – That is a very interesting point about Jennifer Grey (I remember her well) and her nose.

Bskilner – Thanks.

BubbaT – Thanks so much for sharing your personal experience of this. I’m so sorry that you still feel hurt. Could you talk to your siblings about how you feel? Do you think that aspect of your experience could have been “managed” better by your parents or others?

Rouge – Thanks.

FJ – Thanks.

Jen – Ahh what a great post and great advice. I’m LOLing at my DH’s dashing good looks getting him to where he is today. And I really appreciate the point you make about little girls and beauty in our society. And I’m sure your DD2 will be just as pretty as your DD1.... and in her own unique way.

[Miss.B]

Hey hun, I think she's adorable and your DH is paranoid! Our DS has daddy's ears which are huge but soooooooo cute I would never touch them

He also has two toes next to his big toe (on both feet) that are slightly webbed (not all the way, just half way) . I noticed this straight away when he was born, but the doc said it's genetic and someone in the family would have had them, and that it won't cause him any probs. My DF is worried that he'll get picked on at school (I don't think it's THAT bad) but I just can't stand the thought of him having the op. on both his feet just to separate his toes. If he grows up paranoid or not liking them, we can give him the option to fix it I guess......

[Mumma T]

BubbaT – Thanks so much for sharing your personal experience of this. I’m so sorry that you still feel hurt. Could you talk to your siblings about how you feel? Do you think that aspect of your experience could have been “managed” better by your parents or others?

Thanks, It's not something that I would bring up with my siblings now. I honestly don't think it could have been managed better in our case, thats not to say it couldn't be done.