Whats your routine before bed?

For us - after dinner we do baths, get in pyjamas, have a bit of quite time (like reading or having a cuddle while watching tv), then toilet/nappy (i do the same routine for both DS1 - 3yo and DS2 - 16mo), clean teeth. Then I put DS1 into his room and tell him to pick a book and start reading (well looking at the pictures) while I give DS2 a BF - where he'll usually fall asleep (or get very sleepy) and he goes off to sleep holding his teddy bear. I then go back to DS1 and lay with him and read the book and these days I can walk out and he'll usually go off to sleep - but I use to have to lay with him til he dozed off and then I'd sneak out.

I know your DS doesn't have his own room - but I've done this type of routine even when we've been away for about a week and all piled into the same room (DS2 was 11months at the time too) and occassionally we've (well most of the time it is just me putting them both to bed due to my DH's working hours) had them in our bed and it usually works that they'll all be in bed by 8-8.30pm at the latest.

Sorry if this doesn't help - but just thought I'd share what we do in case it could help you. I hope you can find something that works for you - I know how hard it is to function on limited sleep (and work too - argh!!! ).