hollo - are you doing any form of transitition into daycare to get both you and her used to it??? (not that this addresses your particular issues currently) also and not discounting your worries because I fully understand the issues - have been through them myself and watched numerous friends go through them - but you'd be surprised at what they'll do in a daycare situation rather than at home. my godson would happily take a mag cup spout on a bottle at daycare but not a chance from mum or even at home at that time, he would drop off to sleep quite happily at daycare where at home he would need rocking for ages.

jodi has highlighted some good things to try - if you haven't already. also have you discussed your issues with the daycare centre to get there perspective on how they will handle the situations if they develop - maybe this will help ease your mind a little about what will happen if some of these areas don't change. eg you'll know that they are happy to rock her to sleep etc.