Bugger! They're little monsters aren't they. Just as well we love them so much. I know its so much easier said than done, but try and just forget the other stuff around you that you know you should do, but just can't. I know what you mean though cos when I'm not on top of things I very quickly feel like I'm going under and losing control. If you can, do big cookups one day of the weekend while your DH looks after your LO. You'll get sick of spag bol and casseroles, but at least they're something you can cook in bulk and then freeze so one meal a day for you is effectively already done.

Sorry lovely but I don't have any more advice. Hang in there. My DD2 is now a gorgeous independent little miss a lot of the time and the hellish times seem to fade in my memory.