thread: Am i going the right way about it?

  1. #1

    Jul 2009
    Australia
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    Question Am i going the right way about it?

    Now that DD is 2 i have decided that she has to use big girl words to get what she wants. No more sooking and whinging with me guessing what she wants, if she doesn't ask or atleast let me know what it is she wants i say no to her.

    Just now she came up to me (i'm playing music) and said "its stuck" i asked what was and she said "the tv" i asked if she wanted to watch cartoons, usually she will say "yeah/yes" or nods her head but she continued to sook which is also another way of saying yes its what she wants but i don't want her doing that, its yes or a nod of her head.

    Am i being too hard or is it something i should really be pushing now? Of course i understand she has JUST turned 2 and sometimes communicating is hard but this is something i know she can do.

    Also while i am on the subject of her talking. She doesn't call DP daddy anymore she calls him mummy, we are always saying no its daddy or if she tries to get his attention by saying mummy over and over i say to her that if she says daddy he will listen. Is this just her being lazy, a phase is there any other way we can get her to call him his actual name. Also she calls just about everyone mummy even complete strangers!

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    I think it depends. If they're well into the whinge, it's really hard to get them to stop and communicate appropriately as they're already dysregulated. I don't think it's unreasonable to try though, just don't push and push until she's more sooky. Say, "let's try it in a calm voice..." say it together (or say it for her) and then move on. It's really hard for a child so young to regulate her emotional response so I'd say at this age it's something to aim for, not insist on.

    As far as the Mummy, Daddy thing... my DD is 3.5 and she still gets us mixed up. I personally don't think it's something worth trying to fix, it just frustrates them and it makes DD feel embarrassed if her mistake is pointed out to her. Of course, if she notices it herself, she thinks it's hilarious! As long as your DP is tuned in to her, he'll know who it is that she's talking to, and can respond as if she said Daddy.

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    Dec 2007
    Sunny Qld
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    I don't usually push them to use their words until they are talking in sentences. So I wouldn't do it at her age. As annoying as whining is at her age - its worse when they are 4 and doing it lol

  4. #4

    Nov 2007
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    We repeat the full sentence back to my nephews when they're not asking properly - that way we confirm what they want, and they're also learning how to ask correctly. It's working fairly quickly too, they've already started speaking in limited sentences

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    I think at 2 years of age, you still need to model to her sentences. ie. if she is saying "up, up, up" then you could say to her..."DD, you need to say Mummy can you pease pick me up"

    She will start copying your sentence the more you reinforce them

  6. #6

    Jul 2009
    Australia
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    I think at 2 years of age, you still need to model to her sentences. ie. if she is saying "up, up, up" then you could say to her..."DD, you need to say Mummy can you pease pick me up"

    She will start copying your sentence the more you reinforce them
    I do a lot of that.

    So with the tv i said to her "say yes to mummy if you want to watch tv" i usually get screamed no at or she keeps whining lol

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    google Keyword signing.
    its like baby sign but more to it - and its handy for when she goes to kindy and all. the golden rule with it is Keeptalking! sometimes actions are easier to pick up. vic two and a bit and can sign drink more and food.and we're trying to get him to sign toilet.

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    Nov 2009
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    Coopers not even 22 months yet but he's very intelligent and is very good with his speech so we are already saying 'use your words' when he wants something but whinges instead, also getting him to say please and thank you as well, if you know she can talk well then I can't see how it's a bad thing to try and nip the whinging in the bud before it becomes to much of a habit. With the mummy thing, Cooper has started calling DH 'daddy mummy' I think because now I'm at tafe on Thursday's he stays home that day and does all the mummy things I do lol

  9. #9

    Jul 2009
    Australia
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    My DD doesn't so much talk but has understood what we have said since she was 9/10 months old. I would say "can you pass the remote to mummy" and she will seek it out and get it for me. I don't expect full sentences, but i know if i say "would you like a drink?" she can say yes or nod her head so when she whinges i encourage her to do it or she doesn't get it. We also encourage please and thank you and so far we have "tee dee dee" which is her "ta, thank you"

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    Oct 2007
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    Even when kids know how to say or do something, on days when they are tired, hungry, teething, bit emotional, cold, hot, overstimulated, understimulated, doing or saying the thing, understanding your question or making the decision might not be as easy. Encouraging kids to use and develop their skills is great, but try not to gte frustrated if it doesn't work every time.

  11. #11

    Jul 2009
    Australia
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    We praise her a lot so when she learns a new word or answers properly we get excited and tell her how clever she is and give her kisses. The look on her face is just priceless!

  12. #12
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    Mar 2007
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    I think you are expecting a bit much. Or maybe not but I just don't think there should be consequences for not getting it right at this age, i.e. not doing something for her because she doesn't speak properly. She is only 2. There is no rush, she's doing well. And you know what she means anyway. If it were me I would just say the sentence you want her to say when she asks so she hears how she should be speaking but not try and make her say it. E.g. in that situation say 'mummy can I please watch TV' and then answer her itms.

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    Nov 2009
    Vic
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    hmm. I think maybe your expecting alittle much but it also depends on the situation.
    With my DD, she can get alittle whingy and sooky when she's tired or unwell. I try and help her find the words and give her lots of praise.
    Also my daughter calls me daddy alot...maybe because her daddy stays home?? maybe this could be the case with you guys except the opposite...lol...that doesn't really make sense...


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