Help/suggestions needed - at wits end, sorry about it being so long

[kelebek]

Hi everyone,
I was hoping for some suggestions as to how to get my DS to get some sleep as it is starting to drive me crazy & he only seems to sleep in my arms & that doesn't always work for very long.
Today is the day that I seek help after trying to get him to sleep for an hr & 1/2 in his cradle instead of my arms & I am wondering what I am doing wrong?

I'm probably my own worse enemy & we have ourselves in some bad habits because a typical day can go a bit like this

wake up at 11 am
awake between 1 - 2 hours & I'll try & get him to sleep
usually sleeps about 20-30 mins occasionally get 1 - 1 1/2 hrs sleep
awake again for 1-2 hours & try & get back to sleep
usually sleeps 20-30 mins
This patterns goes on until about 1 am when I feed him on the lounge, I tend to go to sleep (he must as well) as I wake up a few hours later (sometimes an hour later but lately it has been 3-4 hrs later), change his nappy feed him again & put him back to bed where sometimes he will stay for an hour maybe 3 & wake up for a feed. If it is about 4/5 am I will get back up go to the lounge & feed him where I fall asleep again but this time only for an hr. Or if it is about 5.30/6 am I will put him to bed with me where we sleep with him feeding whenever he wants to until about 11 am & the cycle repeats itself.
When it is a bad day, ie he has only had 20 min - 1 hr naps all day by 10pm he is a nightmare he grizzels & cries at anything. He will cry putting him to the boob & then will suck for a few minutes & fuss/cry again, I can put him back where he will suck for a min or so & will fuss, suck again & fuss until he refusse altogether. This can be within 5 - 10 mins of me putting him to the boob. When I cuddle him or hold him he cries, when I put him in the bouncer he cries, sometimes he will be cooing/smiling one minute & crying the next ? it is really starting to get to me.

At first I was trying to put him into the cradle sleepy but still awake as I didn't want to get into the habit of him going to sleep in my arms but that was taking over 1/2hr to an 1hr to get him to sleep & then it was only for 20-30 mins most times. When he cried I would rock or pat him until he stopped crying but he would always start again. As I needed a break I started the rocking/jigging thing in my arms until he is asleep & then 10/15 mins later put him in his cradle which seemed to work sometimes but he only seems to sleep for an hour or so still and as he is about 6.5 kgs he is starting to get heavy!

I don't really want to start to co-sleep because it will be hard to get him out the bed later but it seems to be the only place we can get some sleep, after a few restless days my DP & I decided to all sleep together, DS went to sleep @ 1.30am & slept through until 11 am & getting a feed whenever he wanted, then that afternoon after he had slept for about an hour I went into feed him & laid down (cause I stupidly got up @ 7.30 am instead of sleeping with DS) & he slept for another 1 & 1/2 hrs with me.
I usually wrap him which he seems to hate while I am doing it. So I put him into those sleeping bag things yesturday so his arms are free. I was watching him throughout the hr & 1/2 today while I kept putting his dummy in, rocking his cradle etc... & he kept startling himself awake, so I am going to wrap him again. I also noticed after being the in the cradle for about an hour he did a fart & he did seem more calm after this. As he was due for a feed after the hr & 1/2 & he didn't look like settling into a deep sleep I got him up, gave him a cuddle, fed him, changed his nappy, wrapped him, rocked him to sleep in my arms & put him into his cradle (yes I went back to my old ways). He woke after an hour & I fed him again as he was looking for it (nuzzling & not really awake) & he went back to sleep ? should I have given him his dummy instead of feeding him??
I am worried that he may have reflux & wind cause I notice that sometimes he has been sick on his sheets, that even in my arms when he has been asleep for 10 mins & stirs, pulls faces & you can see him swallowing something or sometimes he will be sleeping & will start to grizzle/cry while he is asleep.
Most times he wakes up crying ? is this normal? is this wind?

Sometimes it feels like I am overfeeding him because I can be feeding him every hr or so but that seems to make him happy in the shortterm most of the time with him only fussing when he has had enough but think I could be making his wind worse. He has almost doubled his birthweight in 10 wks.

My DP thinks he's helping cause he is trying to give me solutions but with comments like he must still be hungry, your feeding him too much, what did you do to him? (this is when DS was sitting happily with DP for the past 30 mins @ 11pm while I had a shower & then the little monster started to grumble as soon as I took him back for a feed)!! isn't helping

Ughh? I just don?t know what to do anymore, not sure where to start, I am not getting anything done around the house as I am either feeding, playing or mostly trying to settle the DS. He never seems to wakes up happy, always crying ? is that normal??

Sorry if this is too long but it does feel good to get it off my chest. Any idea/help/suggestions are greatly appreciated & thanks for taking the time to read it